How would you feel if your spouse added extra seasoning/cheese/soy sauce to every dish you cooked?!
He doesn't even taste it before he drowns it with salt, pepper, or some other condiment!. I make a mean lasagna that he douses with canned parmesan cheese before eating!. He does not do this in restaurants when he gets similar dishes!. I am a very good cook who makes many varied and elaborate dishes!. Am I wrong to be insulted when I work hard to make delicious and attractive meals that he just drowns in gallons of tabasco sauce!?Www@FoodAQ@Com
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That bugs me too!!!!! My husband does the same thing!. I dont mind if he does it, but at least taste it first! That is the polite thing to do!Www@FoodAQ@Com
That does seem rather insulting, but did he do this growing up!? Does his family do this!? He's probably used to it because he's done that all his life and doesn't even realize that he might be insulting you!. Before you get really insulted and angry with him, you ought to ask him kindly about it and let him know that you feel like your food isn't appreciated!. And try not to let it bother you too much---he does like your cooking, right!? I encourage my husband to add spices, cheese or whatever he wants to my meals to suit his tastes because I want the food to be how he likes it!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
Just cook it the way you like it, that's what I do!.
My hubs and I have very different tastes in foods, which can be an issue!. He likes ultra-processed tasting foods, so I cook it the way I like it because he always likes to add tons extra cheese, or a lot of salt, or a different kind of sauce that I don't like!.
Maybe he doesn't do it at restaurants because it's more inconvenient and the sauce and stuff isn't right there!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
My hubs and I have very different tastes in foods, which can be an issue!. He likes ultra-processed tasting foods, so I cook it the way I like it because he always likes to add tons extra cheese, or a lot of salt, or a different kind of sauce that I don't like!.
Maybe he doesn't do it at restaurants because it's more inconvenient and the sauce and stuff isn't right there!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
My wife does not make fancy meals very often!. some things i just know need hot sauce or something but then again we are talking canned peas or other that is regular stuff!. I think the point should be to talk to him about this and see what he says since he does not do this when out!. At home you are paying for the salt and stuff while at a restraunt it is there for you so waste it then if need be not at home where when you drowned it, it just cost you!. Talk and let him know this bothers you!. This is a clear sign of someone that does not think things through!. Even if it was a tv diner one time may be more salty than another!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
Personaly it doesn't bother me!. My taste buds are different from others in my family so everyone "doctors" their own food to suit their personal tastes!. Often when people add seasonings before they even taste it that is force of habit and not taste buds!.
Make the food to suit your own personal tastes and let him do whatever he wants to his!. As long as you enjoy your portion then the heck with him!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
Make the food to suit your own personal tastes and let him do whatever he wants to his!. As long as you enjoy your portion then the heck with him!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
It seems to me that he's a closet condiment freak!. If he's doing it before he even tastes it, then it's just automatic to him, UNTIL he leaves the house!. It might be from his mom's cooking!. I would hide his favorite things, then he'll actually see what it tastes like!. My hubby was the same way, until I hid the salt!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
My husband drowns everything in ketchup!. Beef stew, chili, you name it, he's going to put ketchup on it!. It used to bother me but now (after being together for 8 years) it doesn't anymore!. HE'S the one missing out on a wonderful ketchup free meal!. (or tabasco free, in your case) ;-)Www@FoodAQ@Com
Maybe he just really likes things a lot spicer than you do!.No one has the same food taste!. I am guilty of adding salt before tasting to a lot of dishes!. I wouldn't be insulted, be glad all he likes is extra spices!. He could hate your cooking and the work you put into them!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
I think that would bother me to!. My husband likes more spices and things than I do so he adds things now and then!. But most the time he will taste it first and he don't all ways add things to it!. Sometimes he will just add something if it is something he knows I don't put in something he likes!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
Save yourself the grief of absorbing his passisve insults!.
If he's going to do all that without even sampling first, start leaving out the salt, seasonings, or whatever it is he's tossing in, when you prepare the dish!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
If he's going to do all that without even sampling first, start leaving out the salt, seasonings, or whatever it is he's tossing in, when you prepare the dish!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
If your a bad cook then it's just his experience to spice up before trying it!.
If he has some sort of disorder than I apologize for the first comment!.
Most likely he's just a jerk about your feelings and the effort you put in!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
If he has some sort of disorder than I apologize for the first comment!.
Most likely he's just a jerk about your feelings and the effort you put in!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
Your other half is a true boor , let him try cooking !.give your self a break To bad if he complains , ask him how he would feel if you did what he does He 'll probably try to bs you If he can't cook it's time to learn or shut up!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
Mine does the same thing, it doesn't bother me at all, he pretty much drowns everything in salt whereas I try to eat healthy and foods low in sodium!. It's just a matter of personal preference, PICK YOUR BATTLES :-)Www@FoodAQ@Com
My husband is the same way!. He douses everything in pepper before he even tastes it!. Drives me nuts! I sometimes do feel insulted but he just says I like alot of pepper!. My hubby does it at restaurants also though!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
he probably just doesnt have a that well developped pallet, and tries to shock his tastebuds!. just let him if its the way he likes to eat!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
I would just be really thankful he only does it to the food on his plate and that I don't have to eat it that way!Www@FoodAQ@Com
You shouldn't be insulted!. Some of us just do that!.
I add BBQ sauce to my BBQ!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
I add BBQ sauce to my BBQ!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
well as long as he puts it on his meals only his part of the meals i don't mindWww@FoodAQ@Com
well, i'd feel sad and i'd think that he wouldn't like my
cooking :(Www@FoodAQ@Com
cooking :(Www@FoodAQ@Com
Yes you should be very insulted!. This is why nice restaurants don't put salt and pepper on the table!. He doesn't take you seriously, so as 99% of Y! answerers recommend in relationship advice, divorce him!.
Make something really salty and see how he likes it!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
Make something really salty and see how he likes it!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
Don't feel insulted!. I don't think he is trying to hurt your feelings!. Yes, he is missing out on the true taste of a good meal, but it is his to eat the way he wants to!. I know many people that doctor their food before they even taste!. It has more to do with how they were raised than anything else!. It is a kind of conditioning, especially if his mom was as bad a cook as you elude to above!.
Ask him to lay off the salt and canned cheese for health reasons!. Tell him it is not good for his health to use so much salt and cheese!. Tell him you want to be able to grow old with him!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
Ask him to lay off the salt and canned cheese for health reasons!. Tell him it is not good for his health to use so much salt and cheese!. Tell him you want to be able to grow old with him!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
STOP!!! In the larger scheme, is this really that big of a deal!? Sorry!.!.!.I know this is supposed to be the Cooking questions area!.!.!.but, you asked, so I've got to speak up!!!
If your husband is a good husband & a good guy!.!.!.why can you not give him this one little fault!? And, if it really is THIS BIG of a deal to you, then, I suggest you find a KIND way of telling him how you feel!. And, once that is done LET IT GO!. "For better & for worse" and all that stuff that, presumably, you promised at some point!?
Now!.!.!.for a kind way to explain this to him, you have to understand that guys ar different!. They don't always "get it' right off!. So, sit down & explain it in words in person (or on paper, if you must)!.!.!.figure out something that he can relate to!. Like, maybe in childhood, he wasn't accepted just the way he is (like YOU are doing now!.!.!.but, that's different)!.!.!.maybe left to sit on a bench instead of playing ball with the team or something!? Find something that hurt his feelings & then tell him that this is what you are feeling now!.
And, if he continues to do what he does, FORGIVE & forget it!. It is just the way he is used to doing things!.
Love him for who he is & who he is NOT (not a bad guy, not a thief, not in jail, not!.!.!.!.)
Best wishes!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
If your husband is a good husband & a good guy!.!.!.why can you not give him this one little fault!? And, if it really is THIS BIG of a deal to you, then, I suggest you find a KIND way of telling him how you feel!. And, once that is done LET IT GO!. "For better & for worse" and all that stuff that, presumably, you promised at some point!?
Now!.!.!.for a kind way to explain this to him, you have to understand that guys ar different!. They don't always "get it' right off!. So, sit down & explain it in words in person (or on paper, if you must)!.!.!.figure out something that he can relate to!. Like, maybe in childhood, he wasn't accepted just the way he is (like YOU are doing now!.!.!.but, that's different)!.!.!.maybe left to sit on a bench instead of playing ball with the team or something!? Find something that hurt his feelings & then tell him that this is what you are feeling now!.
And, if he continues to do what he does, FORGIVE & forget it!. It is just the way he is used to doing things!.
Love him for who he is & who he is NOT (not a bad guy, not a thief, not in jail, not!.!.!.!.)
Best wishes!.Www@FoodAQ@Com