You Leave Out Macadamia Nuts and Cashews On a Tray?!
Is this rude, or would you not say anything.
I know when you are a hostess and want to make the guest feel comfortable and fed, but this.... Should I have put even more out??
Answers: and I mean a huge tray. When you come back you see your 3 friends have devoured it all.
Is this rude, or would you not say anything.
I know when you are a hostess and want to make the guest feel comfortable and fed, but this.... Should I have put even more out??
Of course your friends were rude, but your duty as a host is not to teach them good manners (which would be equally as rude) - though you will certainly want to remember this and be careful what you serve the next time you invite them. And definitely you are under no obligation to put out still more.
I have often found that whatever you put out for a party will disappear long before folks decide it is time to go home. What I do to get around this is instead of fixing one large tray of something do several smaller trays - especially if you are talking about expensive items like nuts or shrimp. You can slow your friends down on the nuts by mixing the expensive nuts with peanuts or by putting out nuts in the shell (they look nice in a wooden salad bowl) along with a bunch of nutcrackers. Several bowls dotted here and there in various seating areas being used for the party will insure that more than 3 guests get a taste.
Make a small number of shrimp look like a completely luxurious amount by putting them in glass bowl generously padded with lettuce, set into a larger glass bowl of crushed ice. Put items like this on a buffet table - and make things tight enough near the buffet that people will take one or two and move on rather than stand over the bowl playing the pig.
When you are planning what you want to serve allow for a few expensive things, one or two things that are not so expensive but look as if they are (hummus and pita chips - both homemade - come to mind here) and some padders like chips and salsa that you can easily serve in large amounts.
if you had more, you could have put them out. if they were good friends i would say something like "wow that was fast" and just clear the tray and let it be the end of it.
That is what they were there for! I know when I have friends over I buy food and I count on it being gone by the time they leave. Nuts are very expensive, next time try something a little less costly. Chips and salsa, bread with a dressed up olive oil, or even frozen snack foods. Good luck at your next get together!
if you put out heaps and they devoured them all straight away, id just go back into the kitchen and eat heaps myself, then go back out to where they are and dont put anymore out - unless they specifically ask for them again and then its up to you whether you restock or just say no. Its prob better to put out more filling foods first and then the yummy (and more expensive!) stuff like nuts out later. They were probably just really hungry so ate whatever was available. Maybe also serve it with wine or something so their not just focusing on the food. I personally wouldnt say something though or you could make them feel uncomfortable, or they'd ***** about you later for getting all mad over nuts.
i would have no idea as i dont eat any kind of nuts because i am highly allergic and if i eat them i pretty much die :)
It is not rude of guests to eat all the food that is set out in front of them. That is what nuts are for: eating. They're not a political statement; they're not an etiquette test.
If you didn't want your friends to eat all the nuts, you probably shouldn't have taken them all out in the first place.
