Do you think its rude to drink at your own house when you invite non-drinkers over?!


Question: If it's only 1-2 guests plus you and and your spouse, and one of those guests is a recovering alcoholic it would be extremely gracious of you to have no-alcohol occasion in consideration of your guest's illness. Notice I didn't say that drinking would cross the line over into rudeness, only that there are other, more gracious, options.

If it's a fairly large party, then recovering alcoholics have to choose for themselves whether or not to attend. As a host, if you want to show a little extra consideration for the non-drinkers, you might discourage drinking games and other drink centered activities.

So far, my suggestions have focused on recovering alcoholics, but what about people who don't drink for other reasons, like religious prohibitions, medical conditions (other than addiction disorders), or even just personal choice. It is not rude for you offer them alcohol, nor is it rude to drink when they are there, but it would be questionable if were you were lining up shots on the coffee table around which everyone is seated.

On the other hand, there is nothing rude about people refusing invitations to gatherings where alcohol is served or about them quietly thanking their hosts and leaving when they realize that alcohol is present. If drinkers and non-drinkers what to socialize, then they will work out a booz free canasta night or something.

It is always rude for the host to drink beyond the point of "feeling a bit merry" to the "chit-faced" stage.

If these non-drinkers are your in-laws or something, and their visit is less than 48 hours, it would be wise to not drink or at least drink so discreetly that they don't notice. Why buy a headache?


Answers: If it's only 1-2 guests plus you and and your spouse, and one of those guests is a recovering alcoholic it would be extremely gracious of you to have no-alcohol occasion in consideration of your guest's illness. Notice I didn't say that drinking would cross the line over into rudeness, only that there are other, more gracious, options.

If it's a fairly large party, then recovering alcoholics have to choose for themselves whether or not to attend. As a host, if you want to show a little extra consideration for the non-drinkers, you might discourage drinking games and other drink centered activities.

So far, my suggestions have focused on recovering alcoholics, but what about people who don't drink for other reasons, like religious prohibitions, medical conditions (other than addiction disorders), or even just personal choice. It is not rude for you offer them alcohol, nor is it rude to drink when they are there, but it would be questionable if were you were lining up shots on the coffee table around which everyone is seated.

On the other hand, there is nothing rude about people refusing invitations to gatherings where alcohol is served or about them quietly thanking their hosts and leaving when they realize that alcohol is present. If drinkers and non-drinkers what to socialize, then they will work out a booz free canasta night or something.

It is always rude for the host to drink beyond the point of "feeling a bit merry" to the "chit-faced" stage.

If these non-drinkers are your in-laws or something, and their visit is less than 48 hours, it would be wise to not drink or at least drink so discreetly that they don't notice. Why buy a headache?

no because if they came they should know whats comming

no, not at all.

emmmm no as long as you offer some and dont go and completely tankedlol a glass or two of wine is good eh

no, as long as you don't lush, oh and if they are in recovery

only if you dont provide drinks for them

yes it is...thats not good at all....

Heck no! If there are lame guests at my house who don't drink or nothin I gotta drink something to make things more interesting.

yes it is but depends if your taking little sip by sip its ok. but if ur gulping it down it is

i do it all the time, tell them to go home if they dont like it, or find new friends

It's your house and you should be able to drink in your house. That said, if you're going to entertain company, you shouldn't get smashed or (in many cases) even tipsy. Still, if I want to have a beer or a glass of wine with dinner, I'm going to and I'm not going to worry about what any guest thinks.

it depends if they are recovering alcoholics or not

If they don't drink because they are trying to give it up then it would be nicer if you didn't but otherwise no.

no. it's your house. i wouldn't flaunt it, or go too wild with crazy cocktails. but i think it's fine to sip a glass of wine or beer, so long as you offer the non-drinkers some other form of beverage.

Perhaps if they were Mormon and it went against their religion - or if they were in AA. It isn't exactly rude, but I would feel uncomfortable.

Not so long as you offer them something they prefer AND you don't over do it. I'm pretty much a non-drinker but I don't have a problem with others having a drink. Why shouldn't they?

not necessarily?
whats the reason for them not drinking? if its alcoholism then maybe out of politness you shouldnt drink. but if its just that they dont want to then you shouldnt feel bothered about it.

No , not really. Now if there uncomfortable about a party, or you getting toasted, then dont get wasted. Just drink and have fun. Dont worry about the others, but also have some respect for them, by not being rude or getting wasted.

if they are recovering alcoholics, and nobody else is drinking, then yeah...but i invite people who dont drink over all the time with some people that are drinking, so i dont think its rude, its their choice anyways

is it rude to parade naked around a house of strictly non-nudists?

screw those people that dont drink

I'd advise against it. You wouldn't want to go to someones house while they're doing crack when you don't do it. I know alcohol isnt that severe, but you get the point.
If you drink, perhaps have something like wine.

naw, but then again it would depend on your guests. but you can have both alcoholic and non.... drinks

Depends on if that person doesn't drink because of religion. Then you shouldn't drink and respect that. You know what i mean...

:-)

I don't think it is so long as you make an effort to include them in all of the fun.

I dont believe it is rude, especially when you have told them. I believe it would be rude drinking in their house. The only tim it would be rude if it was a former alchoholic and they were good friends with you, as that might be making it hard for them, but really its all about warning them about the activities that will be going on in your house.

yes

If they are sober, yes.

very

Well you shouldn't it is rude xD

Not a good Idea to do that, you will probablly be considered rude and they will all talk about how weird and crazy you acted while they were there, if you want to drink why invite them over? Invite you drinking friends over.





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