How do I convince my mom to let me have a big dinner with friends for my birthday at a restaurant?!
I don't know why.
All my friends understand that they would be paying for their own food and stuff. She suggested that I have a party at my house, but I'm a terrible party host so I don't want that. And we'd have to clean up, if we do everything at a restaurant no clean up for us and we only have to pay for ourselves.
Dinner I can handle a party not so much. Lol.
So can you help me figure out how to convice her to let me have the dinner?
Answers: When I pitched the idea to her she turned it down real quick like,
I don't know why.
All my friends understand that they would be paying for their own food and stuff. She suggested that I have a party at my house, but I'm a terrible party host so I don't want that. And we'd have to clean up, if we do everything at a restaurant no clean up for us and we only have to pay for ourselves.
Dinner I can handle a party not so much. Lol.
So can you help me figure out how to convice her to let me have the dinner?
Well for you & your friends it might be normal to each pay your own way, but for a lot of people of our parents' generation that just isn't acceptable: for them, when you invite people to celebrate something, you pay.
You might try explaining to her that it's completely normal for you & your friends, and that it's just how things are done nowadays. Try pointing out to her all the benefits, like you said; no mess, no cost, no fuss or worry, nothing broken!
Just remember that it's probably about money for her, and she wants you to have a fabulous time... but she feels that she SHOULD pay if you're all at a restaurant.
Also, she might want to be a part of your birthday! If you're at home the family's still involved to some degree, even if they aren't actually sitting with you. If you're at a restaurant, she might feel left out. Try suggesting that you have a family party at home with them, and a dinner with friends out.
Have a great time, whatever you do!
Have a fancy dinner party at your house. Have your mom be the waitress. i did this for my sweet 16 haha.
Good question
I can't see asking friends to pay and bring presents. I also understand your thoughts.
Mybe try asking your mom why she feels the way she does. Let her know her opinion is important and you don't understand why she feels how she does. Make sure to say it nicely - not like your complaining. Ask if you can sit down and find a comfortable compromise.
If you live in a place with good weather - maybe do catering in yor back yard or a park. Or, if your mom is concerned about having to manage so many teens, ask if you can have parents of your friends volunteer to chaparone. If you find out why she doesn't agree - maybe you can work out a compromise. Something that works for you both. The best thing is that if you go about this maturely and care about her feelings, she may work with you more than you think. Some parents also have a hard time with their kids getting older and acting more mature may be hard on her too.
So, from and outside point of view it is hard to advise. But, I guess the best thing to always do is talk to your mom, calmly and let her know - you may be getting older - but you still need her. Dont make false promises and try to respect her wishes while compromising. You never know - you may get a big present for that. She may have somehting big inmind - a surprise. so, dont give up on your mom and talk with her. ok
If I threw a party I would not ask anyone to pay their own way. Your mom would probably be embarrased for two reasons 1.she may not be able to afford to feed all of your friends at a big restaruant 2. If they had to pay their own way their parents would talk about her behind her back.
Try seeing things from her point of view, and look on the internet for some fun party ideas and games.
good luck for one, for two, she is your mother and you (like it or not) are her baby. You will have plenty of time for your friends, but spend time with your family while you still can.
Since you are not the best at organizing ask her to help you..she will probably like that you want her input..hope i helped
Let her know that this is the type of party you want and tell her that you don't want to host. Also make sure that she and your family understand that they too are invited.
Try again when your 16.
As a catering manager...The best way that you can convience your mother is to begin gathering menus and informations from the restaurants that you would like to eat...
Many of them can give you a set price per person and have it pre paid before you even get there...It takes planning because everything has to be paid ahead of time.
So, call a restaurant and ask them how much would be to have a party for x amount of people and what are the menu choices...
Restaurant loves this because they can cook ahead of time avoiding stress in the kitchen for regular patrons.
Usually my mom would want me to go out and eat instead of having a party at home because of the mess and clean up and stuff.
You should explain to her how much easier and convenient it'll be for you, your mother, and your friends.
Tell her that everyone is gonna pay for their own.
you did not say how old you are but great idea. a pizza party at a good pizza place very affordable if all are going dutch ( where each pays their own bill ) you still need to keep in mind transportion. to save your mon the trouble of picking up your pals just have them meet at the pizza place you choose.