How to uninvite a Thanksgiving dinner guest?!
How to uninvite a Thanksgiving dinner guest?
Here goes a family member was invited to thanksgiving dinner. He has since been charged with a crime and is out on bail. The rest of the dinner guests including my husband are opposed to his presence at the meal. (aside from his charges he is rather rude sometimes) This particular instance made the evening news and local papers. I would prefer to just assume he isn't coming and let it go.
Answers:
Be honest, tell him that some of the others invited are uncomfortable with what just transpired on public TV. Tell him you think he may feel quite uncomfortable dining with people who are not "thankful" that he is among them. Then just tell him that you hope all goes well for him and that he'll be exhonerated of the charges and that you wish things were different. I assume the last part is truem but you know what people say about assuming.
Be truthful to him and tell him you would prefer that he did not attend, because of his actions. the truth is always the best. If u assume he isnt coming, and he shows up, people may be rude to him and that in turn could make him be even more rude back, ruining an otherwise happy occasion.
Ouch, that is a tough one. Maybe you could talk to his parents if they are coming, and ask them to tell them. I wouldn't even know what I would do to be honest. So, I guess I can't say much, I would probably just hope for the best, and if he acts up tell him to hit the road.
Well, explain it to the guest that he needs to understand that there will be some guests who are uncomfortable with his presence, and that you'd like it if he would find somewhere else to have the holiday.
If he has nowhere else to go, you may direct him to places who are holding holiday dinners around town, or pay for him to have a dinner and a movie.
This one's tough!
I personally, would just get through the day. If you uninvite him, this could real bad things from verbal to physical to a horrible Thanksgiving. Don't invite next year, tell him your going out somewhere. Good luck!
assuming?
i think you should confront him about it if he calls and asks about it but if just in case you should call and tell a white lie aboout the party being cancelled because too many people can't attend
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If he has been invited then he may come because he feels alone b/cause of what he did.......If it was real real bad, then when he comes accept him gratiously, take him to get a snack and a drink. then tell him that everyone is uncomfortable around him b/cause of what happened...Let him decide then.....He may want to explain things....just don't be rude.........happy turkey day!
What happened to "innocent until proven guilty"? He was "rude sometimes" when you invited him. You should have thought things through before making him welcome. I think it would be wrong to exclude him at this stage. Assume he _is_ coming - set his place at the table. If he doesn't show us, you lucked out. Don't hold dinner.
Hope that helps!
Being honest has always been my policy. Seeing that this individual is of some sort of family member who is not too wanted, I think you should let him know what place you are in...THE MIDDLE.. And tho you do not want to offend anyone you would appreciate that he not come and make everyones day a mess. He might get mad but then you know you did the right thing being honest...GOOD LUCK.
So much for innocent until proven guilty! Even his own FAMILY has already judged him guilty! So much also for family love! When I was a child family was about loving and supporting each other no matter what! If he's rude, you cover that. Explain proper behavior to him. That should have been done when he was a KID!
IF you want to exclude him, then have the guts to tell him so. If you're going to stab someone in the back, do it honestly at least!
You probably will not like my opinion but, here goes.
If you did not have mis-givings when you invited him you should not un-invite him now. You say he was "charged" with a crime. Not convicted.
The only way i would un-invite him is if were a threat to anyone. When he arrives, take him aside and politely ask him to keep a low profile and that if he does not he will be asked to leave.
You do not owe the other guests an explaination.
Don't be rude yourself. This is the Holiday season.
tell him ur husband is having a bankruputcy and ur having a private dinner or that u want it 2 b romantic
Never assume anything - if you do not want him or anyone in your home for dinner simply call and let them know. He will accept you rejection and is most likely expecting it. If you know of an "open house dinner" one sponsored by a church or other community outreach recommend he go there so at least he can have dinner with people who want him around.
What did he do to get him in Jail?
WOW...he's family. Invite him and assume he's innocent.
tell him to make his own dinner and tell him you wanna be a criminal go cook dinner yourself
tell him to stay away
Then you should tell your hubby to talk man-to-man and tell him to consider himself---UNWELCOME.He needs to hurry and let him know.