Someone asking me to throw a party? Is that considered rude?!
My husband's 30th birthday is approaching, and instead of a party we decided to take a small trip together!. We have a baby on the way, and tons of expenses on our second home, so I decided against throwing a party and instead, celebrating together away!. In essence, we then get a vacation and a party, and a small trip before the baby comes!.!. which I thought was the best way to spend our money!.
So last night, my husband's friend called and asked that I throw him a birthday party!. He left me a voice mail telling me he wanted to 'embarrass him' and have a party!. I didn't call back because I thought it was pretty rude for someone to call and say that to a wife!. I don't know if it is my pregnancy hormones or what, but I would never do that! I confronted my husband about it, who seemed pretty defensive, and didn't see my side!. He said it was fine to skip a party, but now!.!.!.
Our home is always the one that all of the husbands want to come to because I am so laid back, we have a big screen, and they can get plowed!.!.!. but I am starting to resent it, and don't like being taken advantage of as a party home!. Should I say anything!? Throw the party!? I just want to do the right thing!.!.!. and don't want to ruin my hubby's big birthday!Www@FoodAQ@Com
So last night, my husband's friend called and asked that I throw him a birthday party!. He left me a voice mail telling me he wanted to 'embarrass him' and have a party!. I didn't call back because I thought it was pretty rude for someone to call and say that to a wife!. I don't know if it is my pregnancy hormones or what, but I would never do that! I confronted my husband about it, who seemed pretty defensive, and didn't see my side!. He said it was fine to skip a party, but now!.!.!.
Our home is always the one that all of the husbands want to come to because I am so laid back, we have a big screen, and they can get plowed!.!.!. but I am starting to resent it, and don't like being taken advantage of as a party home!. Should I say anything!? Throw the party!? I just want to do the right thing!.!.!. and don't want to ruin my hubby's big birthday!Www@FoodAQ@Com
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It sounds like your husband's friends are taking advantage of the situation!. You know the phrase that if you give them an inch, they take a mile!.!.!. it sounds like they've already taken about 50 yards to me!. I would explain to him that you already planned a trip for his birthday and will not be throwing a party!. Make it sound set in stone!. Your husband said that it's okay to skip a party, so then it's skipped! Don't let his friends get plowed there anymore!. You have a baby on the way and it's your right to raise them in a home where people aren't coming over and getting drunk all of the time!. Everyone knows that when the baby comes, the hardcore partying is over!. That's not to say that they can't come over and have a few beers, but they shouldn't be getting "plowed" there anymore!. It's not a bachelor pad, you're married and having a baby! I would just stick up for myself and the baby and it sounds like your husband wouldn't fight you on it!. You can tell his friends that they aren't welcome in your home if they're going to try to play games like that!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
Tell this guy that you already have plans for his birthday, but if he wants to throw a party he should feel free and you will help get your husband there as a surprise!.
Yes, the guy is being very rude, but sometimes they don't know all of the "rules"!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
Yes, the guy is being very rude, but sometimes they don't know all of the "rules"!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
I think that you should take the trip, and if his friend wants to throw a party at your place, he can plan it himself!. But I also don't think you should complain about the trip being to visit his sister, since it is his birthday!. Good luck!Www@FoodAQ@Com
i was going to say explin your self and tell the friend about your money being tight and that you are taking a trip
but then i changed my mind
it is none of his darn business!!
tell him if he wants to throw a party, then great!! but you are not going to have one!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
but then i changed my mind
it is none of his darn business!!
tell him if he wants to throw a party, then great!! but you are not going to have one!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
Say no! We already celebrated!. We have tons of expenses, and Imp regnant!. If YOU want a party, then you throw one at your house!. End of story!Www@FoodAQ@Com
just tell him that you all have already made plans for his birthday and they cant be canceled!. period!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
yes this is rude you should put him in his place and tell him its your husband not his and if he throws him a party your husband will not be there he'll be away with you and stop being so laid back you need your rest let their asses set up camp at some of the other wives houses you don't run a party lounge !. do it your husband friend has no respect for you dealing with you in this manner hell its your husband your house !.good kick !!Www@FoodAQ@Com
I would ask your husband what he wants to do for his birthday, after all it is his!. No matter how much you want to go out of town!. And, tell the friend that at this time you cannot really afford a party so if he could do it, and you would host the home, then great! also, this is your home too, remind the friend and your husband, that you don't mind having his friends over, but you ask now that you guys are having a baby to tone it down a little!. Respect is a two way street!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
Dude, it's his 30th Birthday!?!.!.!.!. What's the problem!?!? You can still do both, and since you're ASSUMING the party is going to be in your house you make it worse on yourself!. Tell his friend you guys are going away on his birthday weekend but that he can do it the next weekend!. Just make sure you say that he has to be the one in charge of thrwing it and that you don't want it happening in your home!. I'm sure him and the other guys will figure out a plan (esp if it will be a surprise)
He's not being rude, he's basically just being a friend to your husband!. Why not let him party before the baby comes!? !.!. with friends and you of course!. It's not only you two who's lives will be affected when the baby is born, it's also relationships with friends and the guys know this!. Which is why I don't see why you can't share him on an important day of his life!.!.!.
Oh and by the way!.!.!. perhaps your husband is the one who DOES want a party buuut doesn't want to let you down or go against you!.!.!. hence, why the friends are the ones trying to convince you to throw a party/ ( I mean c'mon, your husband can't plan his own party sooo he's going to tell his friends to, since his wife is so against it!.)
I think it's the pregnancy hormones are just kicking in!.!.!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
He's not being rude, he's basically just being a friend to your husband!. Why not let him party before the baby comes!? !.!. with friends and you of course!. It's not only you two who's lives will be affected when the baby is born, it's also relationships with friends and the guys know this!. Which is why I don't see why you can't share him on an important day of his life!.!.!.
Oh and by the way!.!.!. perhaps your husband is the one who DOES want a party buuut doesn't want to let you down or go against you!.!.!. hence, why the friends are the ones trying to convince you to throw a party/ ( I mean c'mon, your husband can't plan his own party sooo he's going to tell his friends to, since his wife is so against it!.)
I think it's the pregnancy hormones are just kicking in!.!.!.Www@FoodAQ@Com