Bit desperate... unusual birthday.... dilemma... need a lot of advice and help urgently!!?!


Question: Bit desperate!.!.!. unusual birthday!.!.!.!. dilemma!.!.!. need a lot of advice and help urgently!!!?
Okay, here's the situation:
My 17th birthday is in a few days!. And I'm not sure I want to celebrate!. On that day, my uncle is starting his second cycle of chemotherapy on that day!.!.!. and though he's far away in another city, I really don't feel like doing anything fancy!.
I have only 5 friends I might want to celebrate with!. If I celebrate!. I was thinking of maybe calling them over for a dinner maybe!.!.!. I don't know!.!.!.
Alternatively, I'd like to spend the day alone!. By myself!. Outdoors!. Some time to think, be with myself, write and explore!.!.!. convincing my family is one obstacle, but the bigger one is that I don't know where I could go!!!

I'd really, really appreciate any help and advice you could give me!. Soon!. Do you need more information!? Like where I live (Bombay, India) or anything else!?
Thank you so much!.!.!.Www@FoodAQ@Com


Answers:
As much as you would like to be reflective your family and friends need to celebrate your being here!. It would be selfish of you to not let them have some time to think about happier things especially right now when they are so saddened by your uncles illness!. You too can use a day of celebration and laughter to reduce the stress and refresh you!. Birthdays are a time to look forward and also a time to be celebrated!. I appreciate your desire to be alone but there will be many days that you are and wish you weren't and Birthday memories remind you of how loved you are!. Celebrate your life and what you have ahead, have a nice meal and a laugh!. Call your Uncle and share a fond memory it will make his day too!. Good Luck!Www@FoodAQ@Com

Hello

Why dont you combine the two, make it a family outing!. bring a pack lunch that everyonine will enjoy, make it not about you but about the family, that way they feel as if they are celebrating and you still get the outdoors that you want!.

Hope it helps
Kristine
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awh im sorry about your uncle!.

go to an event being held such as:

Kala Ghoda Fair
A celebration of arts& crafts every Sunday, November through January!.
Pratibimb

The VJTI cultural festival!.

<3
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The problem with birthdays is that everyone assumes them to be a day of celebration for the person who is having the birthday!. Celebration is generally a group activity so when you suggest you might want to be alone, others are going to think something is wrong!. I realize you are have some difficult moments in your life right now and wanting to celebrate while others are hurting can be tough!. I just think if you go along with a small group celebration, no one will question why you don't want to do something!. You have every other day of the year that you can spend by yourself with no one questioning you!. I go through similar feelings during the winter holiday season!. In most cases I would rather stay home than go to some celebration but I do it for my family and friends!. I do it because I love them!.Www@FoodAQ@Com





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