Party throwing etiquette?!
Party throwing etiquette?
So...If someone throws a party either for their self or someone else and books a limo, stripper etc, is it rude to tell/ask the guests to pitch in to help pay? I mean isn't it tacky to be in charge and plan stuff and then to put part of the responsibility on the guests????
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ye, its ur party so u pay for it! its like uv seen a car and ask ur best mate to buy it for u!
Yes, that is tacky. Not unless you make it a little less obvious and ask guest to bring there favorite dish to share. That will help you cut on cost
Yes very tacky.
I think it depends on the type of party? When trowing a bachelor party I think it is expected that everyone throw in something to help out the best man. At least that's the way it has always been with us. If it's just a party, I think your on your own.
I would think so, if one is wanting to have the party, then they should pay the bill.
If I throw a party, I pay the freight.
However, there are people who can't afford to pay the bills and want to throw impressive parties and then ask their guests to pay. It isn't just rude, it is tacky and rude.
If this is a bachelor party no it's fine to invite and say it's twenty dollars to help pay for the entertainment.
Yes, absolutely. It is the hosts responsibility to pay for what they are hosting, not ask for contributions.
I think bachelor/bachelorette parties are the exception to the rule because it is standard that the guests all pay their "share" plus the bride or groom's portion.
However if you are throwing a birthday party for a friend and you charter a limo, you should either pay for it yourself, or offer it as an option, not the rule. In the invitations or email or evites, simply say, we have arranged for a limo service to take us to the party location (or to the bar, restaurant, what have you) and the cost will be $30 a person if you choose to participate. That way you have laid it out that anyone riding in the limo (or whatever activity you have planned) will be responsible for their share. But you definitely need to let guests know ahead of time, to give them the option of participating or not.
Generally, the host hosts. That means footing the bill. If this is a bachelor or bachelorette party, it's part of the responsibility of the best man to host the bachelor party and the maid of honor to hostess a shower or bachelorette party, and they should think about whether they can do that before they agree to serve in that role.
Among close friends and family members in less formal social circles, sometimes these rules of etiquette can be relaxed. For example, if it is a birthday party, the host can quietly ask close friends and family if they are willing to help out before the party plans are set, so that everyone has an opportunity to control the cost. Or in a wedding situation, if the best man and/or maid of honor have limited financial means, sometimes friends and family will not mind helping out so that the bride or groom are not deprived of their celebrations. Either everyone can pitch in and contribute something to the party potluck style, or among really good friends you can ask them to voluntarily contribute to the cost as long as it is disclosed in advance when the invitations go out, not sprung on them by surprise after they accept.
But it is almost never acceptable to ask guests you do not know well to pay to attend a private party. Tacky. Very tacky.