Is it okay to throw your own baby shower?!
Is it ok to throw your own Baby Shower?
I am 6 months pregnant and I am starting to put ideas together for my baby shower. One of my non-close friends(we speak very little and rarely hang out) has taking the duty to throw me a baby shower. I thought she was joking until I requested her help with my shower. I told her that my family was wanting to be involved in and she was offended. she got snappy with me and told me that I was too involved and that she wanted tit to be a surprise for but I was ruining it. I am pissed at this point now so I asked my family if they could put more help into the shower and they're answer were like : i will try, whatever you can't pay for I will try and buy or the classic answer" you can do it yourself". Really! The drama is stressing me. should I just continue on with my plans or allow this acquaintance throw this shower?
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Yes, I threw my own baby shower. I did all the decorations and goody bags and everything myself. My husband made all the food.
Normally, a baby shower is thrown by someone else. However, it's your baby shower, you can do whatever you want. When you asked your family to help you out, they automatically thought you needed help financially. If money isn't an issue for you, then you need to tell them that. You need to clarify with everyone what you want to do. If you're stressing over your own baby shower, you may want to rethink the idea.
Okay here is the thing. Yes it is in bad taste to throw your own baby shower.
It is even in nad taste according to older traditions for close family memeber such *** moms/mother in laws to throw the party, although these days that is more common.
Why did you ask her for help if you baely know her. You should have inlisted your family sooner.
No, it;s not ok to throw yourself a shower or any other party in your honor as an adult. I don't really think it's appropriate for you to be involved at all and have any say in a shower. Be grateful that someone even wants to do it at all.
It is fine to throw your own shower in fact many people do it that way. I think you should continue planning and if money is an issue go to the party packagers.
Phew. For a second I thought the question was about throwing a baby in the shower...After blocking out that visual image, I say have whatever party you want.
It's tacky to throw your own shower.
It's tacky to throw your own baby shower. Usually if you just keep quiet about it and do not become a director or an orchestrator, friends and family will step up to the plate and throw you a baby shower. If you are pushy, greedy, or have a sense of entitlement about it, people will react and respond accordingly, and you will likely receive much less, despite your overzealous efforts. So, just be cool about it. The extent of your involvement ought to be that you are the recipient of the baby shower and the gifts that are bestowed on you, and write thank you notes afterwards.
You can have a party and invite friends but do not in any way indicate or even hint that it is meant to be a SHOWER for yourself. Calling it a shower says that you expect them to come laden with gifts. Very poor taste. Tacky, tacky, tacky.
A shower is usually thrown by a close friend with no help/participation/instigation from either you or members of your family. It is something nice that one close friend does for another close friend.
If you can't afford to buy the things your baby will need, go to the Salvation Army or another thrift store.
