what should i do at this party?!
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I wouldnt want to be like the odd one out. or the boring one not saying anything. But i definatly dont want to get totaly drunk or get into drugs. Its all so unfamilier to me. Maybe im just thinking to much but its hard for me to make conversation. What goes on at parties like these? What should i do?
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I was in the same situation when I moved to my new school. I was completely innocent and really shy and everyone was into drinking, smoking, drugs and sex. At first I thought the only way I could fit in was to do everything so I went crazy and tried to make myself look really outgoing. After a while, I was pretty ****** up and my grades were dropping and although people knew me as the "fun" one, I wasn't happy at all.
So, what I do now is whenever I go to a party or a gathering where theres alcohol and drugs I grab a beer or a shot as soon as I get there, chug that, people still think I drink a lot cause they see me do that first thing. I grab my next beer and go from group to group talking randomly so they won't see me only sipping a little bit at a time. I like drinking a little bit though just so I don't feel so shy especially if I only know one or two people in the party. For drugs, I usually just say I don't drink and have weed or whatever cause it ***** me up too bad, and that I'll have next time before I drink. Around half way through everyones ****** up and they don't even know what's going so I don't really have to do anything.
I care too much about what people think and I know it's bad that I make such a charade out of it, but I can't help it. My advice to you is to just go to the party and show that you can enjoy alcohol but you don't let it get out of hand. You can have fun and be outgoing but do it while you're sober. Hope this helped :)
Whatever you do, DONT GIVE IN TO PEER PRESSURE. It's so cliche, but it's really good advice! Remember that one little mistake like doing drugs once can mess up your whole life. Remember that at the party too. Don't overthink it, just have (CLEAN) fun!!
u should keep ur own drink i mean like cold drink not alcohol but ur friends must not force u also
