Girlfriend is mad at me for being rude, was i really being rude.?!


Question: Girlfriend is mad at me for being rude, was i really being rude.?
Hi, so me and my girlfriend were hungry for lunch. So we decided to go subway, because my girlfriend never makes me sandwiches. So while i was in the subway line; my girlfriend went into the restroom. I saw there was a nice beautiful woman working there. Then my girlfriend finally came back so we can order. I was happy to see a woman was making me a sandwich. She asked me what i wanted and i told her to make me a sandwich. In a jokingly way, my girlfriend then apologizes to the lady and then she calls me sexist.

After that i felt bad about it and then i told her lady i was really sorry. I told the lady that she makes better sandwiches then my girlfriend. I said maybe you should take the place of my girlfriend, i said your free to anytime. I was joking when i said that; but my girlfriend got really offended . Then my girlfriend was really mad. On the way home she was ignoring me, she gave me the silent treatment. Then she made me sleep on the couch. How can i make this up to my girlfriend, i have a big sense of humor but she just can't tell.

Answers:

You still have a girlfriend?



Yeah, you can't just say stuff like that and expect nobody around you ever to get offended.



Yes. Thoughtless and rude.
You need to learn how to treat women with dignity, if you want to be love and respected.



would you like it if she wanted another hot guy to take your place as her boyfriend? no didnt think so.....



Yes how would you like it if your girl was ALL over ANOTHER HOT DUDE



first of all you sound like you are like umm 13 years old if that is the case why even have a girlfriend? and if you are not indeed 13 you need to actually know first how to treat a lady, and people who are serving you, some people have no respect for those in the service industry, like your not paying the poor subway beautiful lady to listen to your horrible attempts at a joke, just let her make your sandwhich, and focus your energy on being a better person not pissing your girlfriend off and maybe actually picking up some solid real jokes.



What you believe it was and what your girlfriend believes it was are two VERY different things. You might have seen it as being funny, but your girlfriend saw it as comparing her to someone else--with your girlfriend coming out on the short end.

Try to see things from your girlfriend's perspective. How would you feel if she was comparing some guy to you--and you came out on the short end? No, you're not feeling too good.

Making up with your girlfriend....First thing you do is to tell her you're sorry for what you did and that you know it hurt her. This apology shoud be accompanied by something she likes: cookies, flowers, a nice dinner.

Had a boyfriend who pulled something similar.



You may have a great sense of humor, but a terrible sense of timing. People (and in this case your girlfriend) rarely feel comfortable being compared to others and even more so when when the comparison is critical of something that you wish was better (her sandwich making). If your relationship is not as strong as your girlfriend wants (and you may not know if it is or not), she may feel threatened and the slightest criticism will not go over well.

Were you rude? Not by intention, but by perception. To make it up to her, you need to acknowledge that you did something wrong and describe it to her. You cannot ask her because she may not tell you. It's not an easy position. If you figure it out, you will have a stronger relationship. Good Luck.




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