If i'm having a party is it wrong not to invite ppl who didn't come after rsvping "yes" 2 the last par!
If i'm having a party is it wrong not to invite ppl who didn't come after rsvping "yes" 2 the last party?
Especially those who checked that they would bring something on the evite. How can u not show up when u've signed up to bring something? Oh, I guess I should mention that I work with a few of them. Ppl will be talking about it in the lounge so I'm sure they will find out. Do they have the right to be upset though?
Answers: i agree that you have the right to refuse an invite to anyone who let you down before.
HOWEVER....given that you work with these folks and you're going to have to face them on a daily basis, you might feel uncomfortable with the aftermath. you're obviously a considerate person cuz you took the time to even ask this question.
i would suggest sending invitations all the way around. when the no-shows from last year respond to your evite and offer to bring something, i would send a gentle reminder of last year's let down. you could say something like, "i'm excited to learn that you're interested in coming this year. i'm just writing to ensure that your plans are more secure than last year so that i can depend on the _________ that you've offered to bring. thanks! i really appreciate your response. this year's party promises to be a greater thrill than last year and i'm elated that you'll be joining us."
you'll be throwing a hint without including an insult.
in answer to your question, they may not have the right to be upset but that won't stop them from being so. It's your party, you can invite whomever you like. I would be hesitant to invite no shows that were supposed to bring something on prior occasions. They do have a right to be upset, but you can set the record straight by letting them know that you feel they let you down before and are unreliable. no you are right
If they get pushed out of shape point out the facts.
You have have my permission to play the victim for the last party.. Well, I guess that depends. Are they your friends? Is it okay with you to have flakey friends?
I think if I enjoyed their company I'd go ahead and invite them. I wouldn't count on them bringing anything, but I'd invite them.
It's your party, however, and your guest list. You get to do what you want. They'll probably feel a little miffed at being left out, and you may end up having to tell them why. Think about what happens next, and decide if that's okay with you. Try one more time. If they do it again, to bad for them. Strike three and they are out. technically, if you invite someone from the office, it's may seem rude that you do not invite the others.... may be they had a good reason to not bring their stuff the last time?
give them another chance.
good luck with the party. Sure, they will be upset but explain why you didn't include them this time. Turn it back on them and say, "Well, you RSVP'd for my last party and didn't come, so I didn't think you would want to come to this one.". Some people have no class when it comes to RSVPing for parties. If you end up having to back out at the last minute, the polite thing to do is call your host and explain, especially if the host is relying on you to bring something! Not showing and not calling is flat out rude and I wouldn't invite a person like that to another of my parties!!
