Do you think a sleepover for boys and girls is proper?!
Do you think a sleepover for boys and girls is proper?
i have lots of friends..some are boys...im having my 14th birthday party in november....obviously girls and boys will be in seperate rooms...my brother (he's almost 19 and he's a strong christian) will be in the boys room makin sure everything is kool. (boys get into mischife if left unattended lol) and the girls get the living room since there are way more girls then boys. no one will be watching the girls since i dont really have a mom and if there is someone with the boys then there is no use to have someone with the girls..and i'll be watchin out too to watch fer any funny biz...i dont wanna be uptight i just dont wanna get in trouble by parents and stuffz cuz im sure my friend's parents would appreciate her and her bf in the sleepin in the same room Additional Details
1 day ago
well i know the other parents are fine with it cuz one of my best friends had a sleep over for her 13th birthday party with boys too. nothing bad happened there but it was something could of becuase there was no supervision on anyone. her mom was asleep and the girls were in my friends room (she has a big room) and the boys were upstairs in a different room...they could've sneaked down there if they wanted...come to think of it i was sleeping too...they may even have...i doubt it but its very possible. so im apporaching this the best way i can. my brother is really awesome and he is mature and he'll be pretty cool and they guys i know will love to hang out with him cuz my brother is a youth leader at our church so he's good with teens. he listens to the same music and wht not and he can make sure nothing bad happens but still let them have fun.
Answers: 1 day ago
well i know the other parents are fine with it cuz one of my best friends had a sleep over for her 13th birthday party with boys too. nothing bad happened there but it was something could of becuase there was no supervision on anyone. her mom was asleep and the girls were in my friends room (she has a big room) and the boys were upstairs in a different room...they could've sneaked down there if they wanted...come to think of it i was sleeping too...they may even have...i doubt it but its very possible. so im apporaching this the best way i can. my brother is really awesome and he is mature and he'll be pretty cool and they guys i know will love to hang out with him cuz my brother is a youth leader at our church so he's good with teens. he listens to the same music and wht not and he can make sure nothing bad happens but still let them have fun. Will there be another adult there besides your brother?
And if all the kids parents approve then I don't see a problem. My husband and I use to have the same thing for the youth at our church every New Years Eve at our house. Ages 13-17 years. Of course we stayed up all night until about 4 in the morning. Then the kids went to sleep all over the house. Girls in bedrooms. Guys in living room. My husband and I were awake so no "hanky panky". All parents we cool with this. So it's a go with me.
Our only rule was if you came you had to stay. No leaving and coming back. That was a NO NO. We never knew what went on when they were running around. So that was out of the question!
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Lover of my Lord Jesus Christ No way! of course if they're in separate sleeping rooms and you okay it with all the parents, it should be fine. maybe one more adult chaperone would ensure your success. hope it all works out and you have fun! I think it may be an unnecessary risk for behavior to take place that could be a bit out of hand. I might just have a day time get together. But, I'm sure that plenty of these kinds of parties go on without a hitch. it sounds fine to me. your brother is old and he sounds mature and responsible. but it depends on the parents of ur friends too. some might be stricter than others, but to me ur party sounds fine and proper. Seems like a solid plan to keep them seperate. That doesn't make you uptight, just cautious. Normally I'd think a group of guys would probably cause more mischief when girls aren't around, but with your brother there, they'll probably behave. I think it's sending the wrong message to the kids. I'm a parent and I don't know any other parents who would think a sleepover is a okay. The guys and girls could party together, with parents there to chaperone, but then the guys would go home to sleep, not with the girls even in a different room. It's too confusing at this age. We're telling you kids one thing but letting you do another. Nope, I don't think so. It wouldn't happen in my neighborhood! well, try finding someone in your girl friends someone VERY sensible. SORRY OLD FASHION MY ANSWER IS NO its good you have your brother there.but for you,it sounds rather stressful!.if it helps,why not have them come over for several hours and have them picked up say 10pm or something?. I just don't think that this is cool. I don't see any reason for it for one. Why do you need the boys there spending the night? so what they are going to see you looking your worst in the morning? No, I think that the boys can pack it up and head home before bedtime.
have a good party. I think it is, if you know the kids. If you think everyone is going to behave, then go for it. Really, it's all on the relationship with these people...
