When invited to relatives house for a holiday and you are asked to bring something. Is it rude ?!
When invited to relatives house for a holiday and you are asked to bring something. Is it rude ?
Is it rude for the person who hosted the holiday gathering. To go into the kitchen an put the left overs in their own dishes and then put in fridge. And then give the person back the dirty bowl.
Answers: My biggest thing is when they give you back a dirty dish. They could have at least washed it. I have fixed this problem all together. When invited to a holiday meal or gathering. I never take the food in a dish I want back. I will buy a tin foil pan or something like. At Christmas time I go to a dollar store and I buy Christmas plates. I feel these with cookies and put wrap on them, and I let the hostess keep the plate. I guess if you do not want to have to deal with the issue of the food. Then take the food in something that you do not want back. Yes--at the very least, the bowl or dish should be washed!
What I usually do is make up an assortment (sampler) plate of all the various dishes (one or two big spoonfuls), wrap with cellophane, and offer such a plate to take home to all those who would like one (especially the elderly who have trouble cooking for themselves). What am I going to do with all those leftovers?? I'd rather share. not really. it actually kinda depends on the type of person. some people say keep the change, and others say they want the extra penny. if they want it they should ask for it to take home and enjoy. no not really as you gave it to them and you where welcome to eat any of the other food but maybe it could've been polite if they asked if you would like to take it home Now, when you bring something be sure to tell aunt martha, that you want the left overs and she won't be putting them in her dish and giving you back yours.
Otherwise, she is the hostess and you are paying admission ...
but it is rude to come to anyones house empty handed. At any time....not just holidays. No, it is not rude at all. You used their lights and water, messed up their house. They usually provide more of the food, they arranged the get together. They had to clean to prepare, and clean when they leave. A few leftovers are not worth their trouble.
I also would not want to take my leftovers home. Put my dirty pan in a grocery bag and send me on my way! If you want to keep the leftover food for yourself you have to ask. Food that you bring to a party is always seen as a gift to the host, not a loan, and it's assumed that you expect her to keep any leftovers. But it really is rude for her to return your bowl without washing it. If it bothers you that badly, talk to her about next time. But be realistic, forgetting to wash your bowl is not like slapping you in the face. People don't tend to stand on ceremony with family but I would clean the dish first if I were the host.
P.S. As you are bringing the dish to the dinner, it is actually rude for you to ask to take any leftovers with you (unless you are offered them by the host) because TECHNICALLY you GAVE the dish to your host as a GIFT. Think about going to a friends house with a bottle of wine, if there was a glass left in the bottle would you expect to take it home with you? I don't think so, you gave the dish as a gift so it's theirs, if it was all eaten it would be gone anyway. I think it would be worse to throw it away in front of you without asking if you wanted it. It would be nice if they washed the bowl though. Sometimes it's nice to return for a visit later and pick up the dish after they washed it. No. It is not rude, it is really a compliment.
If they had not enjoyed the addition you brought to the table, then they would have gladly given the dish, and the bowl it was brought in, back to you.
For the hostess to actually re-dish your addition, into her own bowl, then give you the bowl it came in -- well, you did good.
Give yourself a big pat on the back. well shouldnt you help clean up if you did one of the things you can clean is your own dish Well, it's very rude to give the guests back a dirty dish, but technically if you bring something to a gathering, the host gets to keep the leftovers unless they tell you otherwise. if it is your sister's home wash it and put it away. Others be sure to ask what they prefer think of it this way
if you brought wine with you and there was some left would you take it home?
or a box of chocolate if it all was not eaten would you grab the box on the way out the door?
its a gift I make the entire meal and send leftovers home with my guests. If I invite you, you are not required to bring a dish, however if you do anyway, I certainly remind you to take the remainder home, and if there's none leftover, I clean the dish and invite you to fill it or large paper plates with leftovers. It depends how close this family member is to you I guess. I usually wash the dish and offer any leftovers if the people want to take some. However, when I take food I have no expectations of getting any back, I would rather leave it for the host/hostess because they did most of the work for the gathering. If my dish is given back dirty I don't really care, but would ask for a bag to put it in. (If the host/hostess doesn't have a chance to wash it, sometimes that just happens :) Yes, that is very rude unlessthey have the persons permission to do so. yes it is rude and would not be tollerated in my family.. we always have a leftover take home. everything is set out and everyone takes a plate or enough for their family. everyone also pitches in and helps clean-up and make sure everyone gets their dishes back.
