I had a dinner party, it was not pot luck. I told the guest not to bring a thing.?!
I had a dinner party, it was not pot luck. I told the guest not to bring a thing.?
Well I went all out and made this really fancy desert. Well a friend shows up with desert. and all she talks about is how good her desert is. I set them both on the table, and she went and dished everyone up hers. Was this rude?
Answers: I would assume she was only trying to be helpful. I guess I would have taken both desert in the kitchen and gave each person a small slice of each desert. This way they could try both of them and no one gets hurts. Friends want to help other friends out and to her she may have thought she was helping you out. Or she could have been bragging that hers was better. I guess I would leave it a lone. and if she does it again. You know what to do. Serve up the deserts in the kitchen and give each a small piece of each one. You really do not want to hurt your friends feelings. I am sure she was not trying to out do you. She was showing her gratitude for being invited. Yes, I think that was extremely rude. Particularly that she served everyone her own dessert after you had made one. She could have at least let people choose which dessert they wanted. that is like SO rude.... just dun invite her next time...
or if you do....dun let her in when u specifically told her dun bring any food if she does bring some that friend certainly was insensitive , this was downright rude but take heart,, it could have been the first time she succeeded with the dessert. I am pretty sure you made an equally or even better one.Your other guests would know!!! OMG- thats totally rude and offensive. You really need to ask her what that was about and why she felt the need to do this. It was your home, your party, your friends.She could have decided to have her own party after yours if she felt it was a good idea.I really think you should speak to her and let her know how offended you were and that it was not appreciated. Yes it's totally outragoes and matter or fact she's not your friend You should tie her to the hood of your car and drive her around for an hour...That'll teach her.
Kidding of course, yes, very rude! I can understand bringing a dessert but to only serve hers was very rude of her. She should have let people choose. Go into some elaborate scene and thank her for making you a desert.. Put it in the fridge and marvel about how it will taste tomorrow with a cup of coffee in the evening..or better yet (this one will get her goat).. Tell her your buds at the office will love this desert on morning break tommorrow..... Then ask her since she's so willing to want to contribute to distribute all the menu's "planned" foods out with you to the table.. You should have taken control of the situation. This is what you should have said, " Thank you so much Sue, but I have already prepared a dessert for tonight ". " I'm sure my family will love tasting this tomorrow night." I would have then taken it away from her and put it in the refrigerator, and never mentioned it again. Yes, it was rude. You should never turn down free dessert, because it was gracious of her to bring it.
HOWEVER, it was obvious that she didn't bring it to thank you for being the hostess, she brought it to show off. Which doesn't make it very gracious after all, does it? You might have believed her had she solicited your guests for their preference in dessert, and then served both according to their tastes. Often when I receive extras of something I already made, most people enjoy a little of both. The fact that she did not offer both was rude. Oh, come on a tempest in a teapot. She serves her dessert and crows about, you bring out yours and say, "and try some of this, its really good." Not rude, just insensitive. No big deal.
