Having a birthday party today, NOBODY RSVP'ed. Do I still plan for it?!


Question: I gave the invites out a while ago (some people a week ago, some people a little longer) I asked that everyone RSVP by Thursday the 18th. My son is a toddler, so I didn't want to invite any more than 6 other kids w/ their parents. Anymore than that and it would get too chaotic. Two of the kids are siblings, so I needed to hear back from 5 parents total. Of the 5, 1 said when I gave her the invite, "umm okay, I've never been to your house, I'll call later in the week to get directions"....never called. Two of the others couldn't come...had to work. Also, didn't realize one of them were having a party for their child today...kind of weird we weren't invted lol. Finaly, the last set, didn't call either. I'm afraid if I don't get things ready people will show up, but at the same time, if I get a bunch of stuff out, and ready, and nobody comes I'm stuck with a huge clean up for nothing. So I know who is NOT coming, but should I just expect the other 3 are?


Answers: I gave the invites out a while ago (some people a week ago, some people a little longer) I asked that everyone RSVP by Thursday the 18th. My son is a toddler, so I didn't want to invite any more than 6 other kids w/ their parents. Anymore than that and it would get too chaotic. Two of the kids are siblings, so I needed to hear back from 5 parents total. Of the 5, 1 said when I gave her the invite, "umm okay, I've never been to your house, I'll call later in the week to get directions"....never called. Two of the others couldn't come...had to work. Also, didn't realize one of them were having a party for their child today...kind of weird we weren't invted lol. Finaly, the last set, didn't call either. I'm afraid if I don't get things ready people will show up, but at the same time, if I get a bunch of stuff out, and ready, and nobody comes I'm stuck with a huge clean up for nothing. So I know who is NOT coming, but should I just expect the other 3 are?

Absolutely! People are unfortunately horrible at RSVP's. I am not sure if they are just rude or don't realize the necessity of a reply. This happens at weddings a great deal too! People don't realize that the planning of food and beverage as well as seating is crucial to some events and if people thought enough of a person to invite them they should reciprocate and send and RSVP and let the host know if they plan on attending. PEOPLE RSVP! You will look chic to your host and help them plan! A general guide is plan on 50% of your invitees to attend if your planning food etc.

you should invite people that you know very well and you had attended their children parties which they won't say no to your party
and it isn't that bad to call everyone two days before the party and re-invite them again just to make sure that they will attend your party..

Yes, plan for the party. If they did show up you should have everything ready for them. Set up for the three guest and yourselves. It is better to have the party ready than to not have anything. If you should decide to cancel, though, I would call them and let them know. Maybe that would be a good way to find out if they are coming.

I'm so sorry that you have such inconsiderate friends. Try calling everyone one last time to confirm a yah or nay. I would only plan to entertain anyone who confirmed the invitation. If no one confirms, pack your toddler up and take him/her to the park for the afternoon. That will teach some manners to anyone inconsiderate enough to show up without the requested RSVP. Good luck.

I would call the people you still havent heard from and try to get a last minute answer. If you cant get a hold of anyone dont plan for the party, just pack up and head for chuck e cheese or something and celebrate the birthday there! Your son will still have fun and you wont have the stress of a party!





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