Is this really normal, or do I have too high of a standard?!
My new roommate is incompetent!. Honestly, she's smart, gets A's in Engineering and Physics, but has no practical knowledge!. She can't go to the grocery store by herself, she burns everything she tries to cook, and she can't tell when fruits and vegetables are under-ripe, ripe, or moldy!. also, she just leaves food out for hours in non-airtight containers!. And she didn't know how to make microwave popcorn, or toaster waffles!. She's 19!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
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It sounds like her mother never taught her about cooking or food safety!. The girl needs your help! But don't sound like her mother when you show her how to do things, make it sound like you are giving her friendly suggestions!. Www@FoodAQ@Com
I had a roommate just like that a year ago! She was really smart and studied all the time but left out food to rot and left out milk to spoil and wouldn't clean it up!. And whenever I wanted to study, I couldn't because I can't stand mess, and I'd have to spend all my time cleaning her mess up!. She would leave high heel shoes on the floor and I stepped on them and sliced my foot open so I took all of her stuff and threw it on her bed!. She still didn't get the hint!. She came home and I was cleaning and she was like Wow it looks so great in here! I finally had to move out and left the mess all to herself!. Believe me, I tried to leave the mess for her to clean, but the smell just made me gag!. No candle or air freshener could cover it up!. Good luck with that! I feel your painWww@FoodAQ@Com
I think it's pretty normal!.
I'm a straight-A student with honours in just about every subject in highschool but I lack common sense in areas that normal, average academic people don't!.
A few general examples :
I'm a total klutz, although I'm really athletic!.
I'm disorganized!.
I'm exrtemely forgetful!.
I can cook but I'll always forget to do something and then remember later!.
Or I'll be talking about something and forget what I was talking about the next moment!.
As well as other things that might result from lack of common sense!.
Although your friend is a bit of an extreme example (I know all those things you mentioned are wrong), I think it's kind of normal!. I think she just might have been more dependent on her parents or guardians than you or I am!. Www@FoodAQ@Com
I'm a straight-A student with honours in just about every subject in highschool but I lack common sense in areas that normal, average academic people don't!.
A few general examples :
I'm a total klutz, although I'm really athletic!.
I'm disorganized!.
I'm exrtemely forgetful!.
I can cook but I'll always forget to do something and then remember later!.
Or I'll be talking about something and forget what I was talking about the next moment!.
As well as other things that might result from lack of common sense!.
Although your friend is a bit of an extreme example (I know all those things you mentioned are wrong), I think it's kind of normal!. I think she just might have been more dependent on her parents or guardians than you or I am!. Www@FoodAQ@Com
Ugh!.!. I have a friend like that too, thankfully I don't have to live with her!. She is really book smart, but completely lacks common sense!. I'd just kindly offer your knowledge about that kind of stuff so she realizes that it is not okay to leave food out and I'd maybe offer her a lesson or two in cooking!. Some 19 year olds don't really care that they are bad at cooking because their parents have been doing the cooking for 18 years!. Good luck :-) Www@FoodAQ@Com
I can compleatly understand your frustration!. The best thing you can do it help her out!. It is pretty sad that she cant make popcorn but just teach her a few things!. It will only take a few seconds and you'll be glad that you did so you dont have to deal with any more complaining, plus, she wont have an excuse!Www@FoodAQ@Com
I know it's typical to criticize those you live with, but I'd leave it alone!. If the gross-factor is really bothering you (moldy food left out, etc!.) ask her if she'd like you to show her what's "safe" and what's not!. You could show concern for her health-- not her incompetence!Www@FoodAQ@Com
Everyone is very smart about some things and very stupid about others unless they are a genius!.Educate her in a nice polite manner and if she doesn't want to learn just forget it!.Some people can't be taught certain things and pushing it will just cause aggravation for both of you!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
well sounds like my type girl,just joking!.before I learned what I new about anything I was ignorant to it ,once you learn it its different !.obviously she hasn't learned to do those things yet or she probably make A's at that too,so teach herWww@FoodAQ@Com
why do you care!? let her cook for herself!. shes not a childWww@FoodAQ@Com
If her career path was decided early she was probably not expected to worry about these things!. Her focus I am sure by the good grades she is getting was on pure academics and most likely her family was glad to do everything else for her!. That's all well and good until a kid becomes a giant kid in a 24 year old body who doesn't know how to scrub a toilet or boil an egg!.
I once had to teach a roommate to shop at walmart for an extra blanket so we could keep our thermostat down!. Her room was poorly insulated, on the Northwest corner and was 5 degrees cooler than the rest of the apartment and she was freezing every night even with a bedspread and a blanket!. She was almost in tears as she lamented she didn't have fifty bucks for a new blanket!. I would have laughed if she wasn't so serious!. This is why children of Rich People are not automatically Rich when they are grown!.
"Do you have 5!.99$!?" I asked!. And off to wally world we went!. I told her the new blanket would never be an heirloom she'd give to her grand-kids but she was warm!. There was even a markdown that day, she got two blankets for less than ten bucks!.
It may be annoying to have to play big sis to her when you have left home for college and want to focus on your life and aspirations!. But you weren't born with all your practical knowledge either, someone taught it to you!. If you have the time to help her navigate the grocery store you are doing yourself a favor when she doesn't bring home moldy food!.
On the other hand don't feel you are her caretaker either!. Give her several chances to pick up some life skills from you but don't feed into an unhealthy dependence!. Should she fail to thrive it's not your fault, but also don't expect her to be Martha Stewart and a Nuclear Physicist in Manolo Blahniks!. Be kinder than necessary to everyone for we are all fighting some kind of battle!. Hope this helps!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
I once had to teach a roommate to shop at walmart for an extra blanket so we could keep our thermostat down!. Her room was poorly insulated, on the Northwest corner and was 5 degrees cooler than the rest of the apartment and she was freezing every night even with a bedspread and a blanket!. She was almost in tears as she lamented she didn't have fifty bucks for a new blanket!. I would have laughed if she wasn't so serious!. This is why children of Rich People are not automatically Rich when they are grown!.
"Do you have 5!.99$!?" I asked!. And off to wally world we went!. I told her the new blanket would never be an heirloom she'd give to her grand-kids but she was warm!. There was even a markdown that day, she got two blankets for less than ten bucks!.
It may be annoying to have to play big sis to her when you have left home for college and want to focus on your life and aspirations!. But you weren't born with all your practical knowledge either, someone taught it to you!. If you have the time to help her navigate the grocery store you are doing yourself a favor when she doesn't bring home moldy food!.
On the other hand don't feel you are her caretaker either!. Give her several chances to pick up some life skills from you but don't feed into an unhealthy dependence!. Should she fail to thrive it's not your fault, but also don't expect her to be Martha Stewart and a Nuclear Physicist in Manolo Blahniks!. Be kinder than necessary to everyone for we are all fighting some kind of battle!. Hope this helps!.Www@FoodAQ@Com