Please...Raw foodists only - a question for you?!
Please...Raw foodists only - a question for you?
I am raw most of the time now, but family and friends aren't totally on board and make foods that I can't eat. How you do cope/handle soft situations like that without hurting their feelings...and when you go on holidays and stay with friends and family, how do you state your diet guidlines as best you can to them and do you have any tips to help them understand what you are doing? I have Italian relatives who yes, like to eat pasta, white breads and meats, I am having a hard time and find myself eating those foods sometimes, either to please them or because I am really hungry and have been visiting for a time. Any suggestions? Peace and Light
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Tough deal. I am not a Raw but have an incredible arrary of serious food allergies.
Pack yourself a meal ,snacks..even some to share. Then I eat what I can at their place along with my own rations.
Just be your sweet self & glide thorugh this like it's no problem they'll take your clue of being calm.
Come on! If you are going to have such restrictive diet restrictions, bring your own food. I think it's rude that you expect them to bow to your strict restrictions
I agree with bluesea.
Why are you only eating raw foods?
My wife is vegan, and we always knew that if she wanted to have more available to munch on other than a green salad during family get-togethers, we would have to bring food with us. Either that or beg for directions to a grocery store.
It's only common sense. You cannot impose your values and diet on anyone else. I'm an omni, and my wife may make comments once in a while aobut how gross eggs look when raw, or whatever, but she respects my tastes, and I respect hers. The big challenge is not dining at home, but finding a decent restaurant where we both can have a good meal.
Wake up and be an adult. The only person who you can really push to be like you is... well...YOU!
I have been vegeterian for about 10 years so all my friends and family know this is my choice. They understand that I will bring my own food and no one's feelings are hurt. I also offer to cook for them when I stay at someone's house. This way I get the food I like and they get to try something new, and it saves them the work of cooking. Everyone wins.
I live with a man who is not vegeterian. He likes the food I cook so that isn't a problem. When he wants meat he just cooks some to go with the dinner I cooked. I keep some things in the freezer (curry tofu, rice and beans, soup) for those days when he is cooking some meat and we dont want the hassle of having two meals going at the same time.
Jeeze! No one can read your question properly. Sad.
But, sorry, I'm not a raw-foodist, but I suggest that you try to find some other Italian raw foodists out there. They can suggest traditional Italian dishes that are already raw that you can bring along to family gatherings. It took a LONG time for my family to add anything to the dinner table that I would eat (as I don't eat animal products and they do), so I just made my own dishes and added them to the table. They wouldn't even try my dishes, as if eating something without animal products would kill them or something. Eventually though, the regular family recipes were easily altered, such as not putting butter in the mashed potatoes, etc. I say, try being nonchalant about it and say, “hey, I’m trying this new way of eating and I’m going to see if I can stick to it.” Hey, there are some pretty weird diets women are on out there in order for them to lose weight and it’s totally acceptable. It’s all about how it’s presented sometimes. Just make certain they don't take offence at it, like "hey, what's wrong with our cooking, you've been eating it your whole life and suddenly you don't want to eat it!" Well, hopefully some real rawfoodists answer your question.
My mom is the same way, here is what I have done:
At family things, I always cook one main dish and one side dish for me, and enough to feed some others. I got my mom to agree to try one bite of everything I make, whether raw, vegan, vegetarian, or freegan! If she likes it, she can eat it and others in my family will catch on and try it, if not then I eat it and have left overs! In your situation, your not cooking anything, so just bring your own food, or do your own shopping in their town. If you have to eat "those" foods, restrict yourself to those dishes that are only vegetarian, trust me you can fill up on vegetarian dishes and please family and friends. Think of it as steps, first you move to vege, then vegan, then raw... take as few steps back as possible to please people, and remember, you can't please everyone... let them know that you have made this lifestyle choice, and they may not understand it, but they should respect it. But you need to remember, they can't respect it if you are subjecting them to something they didn't choose by expecting them to make you food!
what is a 'foodist'?