What should you do about a vegan who tries and impose their eating style on you?!
What should you do about a vegan who tries and impose their eating style on you?
I am a meat eater and have no problems with this, but this vegan person I know keeps trying to make me go vegan, even though I have explained to them that I accept their choice, but it is not mine.
Answers:
First:
If you feel that anyone is imposing on you, then the answer is clear: politely confront the person and ask them to stop, and if that fails, then it's your choice to make on whether or not you want to continue seeing someone who can't respect your boundaries.
Second:
As a person who eats meat, I realize that I don't just eat meat. A large part of my daily diet consists of grains, vegetables, fruits, beans and dairy products. As a person that eats from various sources I am able to enjoy all sorts of foods that some of my diet-restricted friends can't. For instance, I really love milk, but I've found that I prefer the taste of soy yogurts over dairy yogurts. I also go to vegetarian and vegan restaurants with my vegetarian and vegan friends, and I've found some pretty tasty meals there that I wouldn't have found at my local steakhouse. I discovered that I really like hummus (hummus is a vegan dish originating in lands that include meat in their diets), dark chocolate (many are vegan), bean burritos, and portabella mushrooms. Does this mean that I'll nix the Shepherd's Pie? Or the sushi? Or even the chops? Probably not. What it does mean, for me at least, is that I can enjoy various dishes wherever I go...because my diet is inclusive. I like to think of it as an equal opportunity diet ^_^.
eat a medium rare prime rib sandwich in front of this person every chance you get and go heavy on the sound effects (how good it is)
Tell them to shut the hell up and mind their own business....
Laugh at them.
1. tell them they say the funniest things
2. laugh at them. In public. The louder the better. It don't matter how fake the laughter is, it will become real.
3. they will get the point.
This has worked for me with a number of different A type personalities.
Be polite if they are with you. If you can avoid them and try to avoid the subject during converations. If they offer you something to eat that you don't want just say no thank you.
They will get the idea after a while.
So sorry if this is happening to you with somebody you were planing on dating that is soo sad.
Good luck to you anyways and happy new year.
If it escalated to that, I'd look them square in the eye and calmly say "Why do you keep saying that? I've accepted that you're vegan, and you can't accept that I like meat? Isn't that a double-standard?? You're only tolerant of others who believe in only what you believe??"
Reversing it on them has a really good impact.
im guessing that this person thinks that the only correct practice is to be a vegan
if i were you i would try my best to ignore & show him that Im not affected by his words.you must be firm cos if he sees that you are being affected ,he will continue to harp over this issue & i can imagine that it would be a 'pain'
so go ahead ,continue having those delicious steaks & hotdogs,& soon he will give up
Stop being understanding. They do not accept your choice so you should feel free to retaliate in kind. Or, if you don't want to argue, try sarcasm/humor.
It's the same thing with religion, just respect his ways to show him that he should respect yours, and if he still keeps bothering you, just confront him, tell him not to tell you what to do.
tell them that people are omnivores and didn't get all the way to the top of the food chain by eating tofu! or better yet, avoid these self centered freaks altogether.
Go out and buy a nice Prime Rib and eat it in front of them!
Ask them what is more important to them being your friend or being vegan. I suspect that this person identifies with being vegan so strongly that all they can think about is converting other people to the vegan lifestyle. Ask them to respect your lifestyle choice as you respect their lifestyle choice. If they continue to be unreasonable...end the friendship or throw raw hamburger at them!
This person need to find something else to talk about, or find someone else to hang out with besides you. I'm a Vegan and if people want to talk about that, that fine. If not, thats fine too. Some Vegans don't do well around people who eat meat, if thats the case they should hang out with people who are like them. Most of my friends eat meat, I might not agree with it, and I honestly don't think its ok. However I don't bother them about it.
Just repeat this and tell them you don't impose your beliefs onto them and you you would appreciate the same respect in return.
Maybe they just turned vegan and are a little over excited, they may cool down as they get used to it. If not, maybe just keep a friendly distance, noone likes fanatisism. If they value you they will stop pushing and respect your lifestyle choices but you may need to create that space to show you will not be bullied.
I'm a vegetarian, but I don't believe in trying to force my views on others. If the person continues to push the issue after you've already explained your viewpoint, look him in the eye and say, "We've already discussed this, I've told you my answer, and the subject is closed from here on out."
If he won't drop it, get up and walk away. From what you've said, you've been very polite, but there's a time when you have to say, "Enough is enough."
If they really loved you they'd let you eat meat !!! If not part company. An individual food regime is an entirely PERSONAL choice!!!
I am a vegetarian and I'm going to go vegan in 2007. I don't like eating meat and am not thrilled that others do but as Matt said I don't force vegetarianism down my friend's of family's throat's throats!!!!
The only person I do lecture is a persistent Troll in this section who only asks mean and or dumba** questions to be nasty !! ('cos it gives him the h*rn!!!) He shall remain nameless.
Remind them that plants live and feel pain and animals die by the thousands in the harvesting of vegetables. Tell them they have no control over the animals living in their colons and throughout their bodies. Animals eat other animals as a part of nature and we are part of it too. The only difference is we are aware of the pain we inflict and feel guilty as a result of this awareness. Animals won't blink an eye while they devour you; they eat instinctlively.
Start with "You expect me to be tolerant of you lifestyle right? Then what can't you be tolerant of my lifestyle? Or are you a hypocrite?"
Now if that doesn't work, then do this.
After you're vegan person starts in on you, stand up and scream at the person "I CAN'T BELIEVE YOU WANT ME TO DO THAT. IT'S GROSS. NO WAY, I MEAN, GROSS, NO I CAN'T BELIEVE YOU WOULD EVEN THINK I COULD BE THAT WAY."
Then turn and walk away quickly. If anyone asked what happen, just say "It's so gross I just can talk about it."
That will focus a lot of attention on the vegan person, and not matter what they say they will just dig themselves a hole.
Now if someone come back and says that the vegan person said they were just trying to convert you into being a vegan, just say "Yea right, like I'd make a scene over that."
That should put an end to it.
you should do the same thing that a vegan should do to a 'lousy meat-eater' that keeps emphasizing how good the dead animal tastes.....
tell them in whatever way they will understand and get the point.....anywhere from polite to embarrassingly loud and ignorant.