What do you think (or say) when someone...?!
What do you think (or say) when someone...?
When someone repeatedly apologizes for eating meat (any form . lke in chinese food or pizza etc) in front of you because your a vegetarian/vegan.
Do you like it better when they apologize or don't?????
also... How many of your friend TRULY repsect you being a vegetarian/vegan????
1 month ago
I have told then i don't like it when they apologize but they still do it.
and also what i mean by respect is that they don't say things like 'you should eat meat' or other things like that.
Answers:
1 month ago
I have told then i don't like it when they apologize but they still do it.
and also what i mean by respect is that they don't say things like 'you should eat meat' or other things like that.
The first time or two, I just figure they don't know me very well. The 4th or 5th, I think they must have a guilty conscience. After the 8th time, I think it's obnoxious. Around the 10th, I start to wonder what I've done to come across as someone so uptight that I can't be in the presence of meat. Hehe.
Not quite sure why people apologize, but I suppose it is the nicer ones who do.
Most of my friends truly respect my eating habits. You know they do when you're traveling in some foreign city and you've spent an hour searching for the veggie restaurant you heard about that's supposed to be right over...? Someone who didn't respect me would already have a hot dog shoved in their mouth.
I can't really think of anyone I consider to be a friend that doesn't respect my diet. At least they all pretend to, and that's fine enough for me. :-)
Tell them not to apologize and that you accept that they eat it.
my friends are people who are comfortable with me and I with them....I don't scrutinize what they eat and they don't scrutinize my food. So....I think a good friendship is one where you can relax and be who you are without apologies.....
Maybe they say it because they now it upsets you. A simple answer would be ok, I not force or talk about being a veggie in front of you but only if you stop apologizing each time you eat meat in front of me.
I consider myself a vegetarian not so much because I don't eat meat, but because I'm beginning to like more vegetables. That should really be the definition of a true Vegetarian, someone who likes vegetables over meat and increasingly makes them the center of his/her meals. I'm not that sensitive to a done deal, and sometimes I even eat meat, just not so often.
I can say most of us, if not all, have eaten meat in our lives and probably still love the taste. If not, why is there such a huge market for faux meat products?
What's to "respect"? Should someone RESPECT me because I like diced fruit on my oatmeal? Or that I roast and grind my own coffee beans? Or that we shoot and butcher our own venison?
Sheesh! Veggies think they're some sort of saints or something.....
I tell them "Hey, no need to apologize!" and smile. If they continue, I figure maybe they just want to for their own sake, and just shrug and smile from then on out. I want my friends to be as comfortable eating around me as they can be, because I like them, because making them feel guilty won't solve anything, because I want to show them being vegan isn't a dreadful, burdensome thing, and because it's just a more pleasant dining experience that way.
I've found a surprising number of my friends not only respect it, but are envious or fascinated by it. They say things like "That's really cool, but not for me" or "Oh, I wish I could do that!" and for my part, I try to help them out if they want it. A few of my friends have even become vegetarian from my influence. A few make crude jokes, or act disparaging, but they only bring it up when we're eating. I can tell those don't respect veganism, but they still respect me, so I shrug it off and we continue amicably. I've never had anyone be verbally abusive about it in real life, but if they were, that would end the friendship. Most of my family is disrespectful, but I'm stuck with them. ;)
Just tell them there really is no need to apologize, it is not like they are offending in any way by it. Not like they're eating meat on purpose because a vegetarian/ vegan is in the presence.
It makes me personally feel uncomfortable when people apologize, because some people hear the apology and single me out, or they just say something about they don't have to offer an apology, and it makes me look like the bad person. And, I feel uncomfortable, because it's not like they're committing a sin, they're just eating something I do not.
As for what I think of hearing the apology? I think some people sincerely mean it when they apologize, but they should never have to apologize.
Alot of people respect it, out of my friends. Some joke about it to me, but I know it's in good fun. Alot of people just respect it because it's a big challenge.
I appreciate when people apologize for eating meat around me, but if they kept saying i'm sorrry over and over agian, i might get annoyed! All of my friends and family respect my vegetarianism now, but it has taken them years to do so! I dont think my family truly respects the fact that I'm raising my kids vegetarian though! They have given them food that they know my kids are not allowed to have. Although not really "meat", they have given them gummi bears and yougurt. And their real father has forced them to try ham. Which made them very VERY sick! They vomited and had diarreah for DAYS! And he still thinks they should eat meat! Anyway....hope i answered your question!
It's a sign of a good start.
If someone feels guilty about eating a tortured body of an animal they probably wouldn't even witness being killed, then hopefully in time, they can understand why they feel this way.
Meat is dressed up to taste nice for these people. That's all they hold onto. Hence the apologies.
Most people respect vegetarians these days, tonnes of people are veggie for health reasons anyway. Some people will make jokes, but perhaps that's them putting a brave face on the fact they haven't got the willpower to do likewise.
None of my friends care enough to apologize,
and no, they do not respect me being vegan at all. One of them actually shoved his chicken sandwich in my face. I slapped him.
I need vegan friends :].