Why did they do it?!
Ok some of my family know that I'm a vegetarian and they'll eat the meat right in my face. It is so rude! Like my brother he will come up to me and say: Hey Jaqui do you want a hotdog oops I forgot you don't eat meat. And some of my other family menders do the same thing. Why are they being so mean to me?
By the way I'm 15.
Answers: Why did some people eat meat right in your face when they know your a vegetarian?
Ok some of my family know that I'm a vegetarian and they'll eat the meat right in my face. It is so rude! Like my brother he will come up to me and say: Hey Jaqui do you want a hotdog oops I forgot you don't eat meat. And some of my other family menders do the same thing. Why are they being so mean to me?
By the way I'm 15.
Why are they being so mean to you, that easy, first they get a rise out of you, I’d be willing to bet you make a scene every time they do that too you and they think it’s funny. Second you’re being different and being different makes you stand out, and if you stand out that makes you a target. Everyone who really different is a target, trust me. It wasn’t that long ago if a man was a nurse he got picked on for not being good enough to be a doctor. Even today if a man stays home to raise the kids while the mom works, he’s not a real man.
What to do about it, the next time they ask if you want a hotdog or steak etc then go oops I forgot you don’t eat meat, just say ‘Thank you for remembering I’m a vegetarian’ and then drop it, don't say anything else about it, bring up the weather, school, anything else, once they see they can’t get a rise out of you the fun will go away and they will stop, it might take a while, and your brother may go to extremes to get a rise out of you, but it will stop.
Now as far as being rude; it’s rude to offer you meat when they know you’re a vegetarian. It’s also rude to expect your family not to eat meat in front of you. What they eat is their business not yours. Or do you expect everyone to cater to you? Trust me if you think it rude when your family eats meat in front of you wait until you get out in the real world. Most people don’t care if your feelings are hurt when they throw a steak on the grill, or you find yourself in a restaurant with a client and they cut into a bloody steak, while you’re still trying to find something on the menu that doesn’t involved meat after all it’s the client you’re trying to impress and this steak house is where your client wanted to go. Or when the book club in collage orders pizza, do you think they are only going to order vegetarian pizzas because you’re there? I don’t think so. Oh the book club might order one or go half and half on one, but it not going to stop them from order a meat lovers nor will it stop them from eating it in front of you or offering you a piece, knowing you’re a vegetarian.
In the real world, most people don’t care what you eat, as long as you don’t try and force your views on them, likewise you shouldn’t care what they eat as long as they don’t try and force it on you. They aren’t going to change the way they eat just because you might be offended, nor should you. If they ask why you’re a vegetarian answer them truthfully (if you wish), then drop it. If they liked what they heard they will ask more question, if not don’t try and convert them it won’t work.
I know at 15 you feel very strongly about the things you care about, at 15 I did too. You see all the wrongs of the world and want to make them right if only people would stop doing (blank) or if people would just start doing (blank) the world would be so much better. But life steps in, you have to raise kids, put food on the table, you need to work and some things just get push aside. Then come the question of what’s right, should someone anyone be able to tell you what religion to belong too, some people think so, should someone anyone be able to tell you what you can and can’t eat, again some people think so and they think the world would be so much better it you would just do (blank). Its called conflict, what you think is right may not be what someone else thinks is right; wars have and are being fought over that question. All you can do is live life the way YOU feel is the best for YOU, do what you can for the causes you believe in and let other live in peace.
And I hoped this helped.
Led a good life.
Only they know why they do it. We might try to guess and prehaps end up being wrong.
Your not alone. Keep strong. You don't need to rise to the bait and get angry - that won't prove anything. If they see you arn't bothered by their irritating comments they will soon stop bothering you.
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because they dont understand that
people have opinions too
they are ignorent
and dont see your decision as important
but dont blame them its in people nature to
make fun of something different even if its good
They are tempting you...just as the Serpent tempted Adam taking of the Forbidden food and gave onto Woman.. Adam blamed Woman!
Today Many haven't learned the errors of their ways! It's not really mean... just not nice! Mean is whe they shove it down or throat or give you some dish saying it's vegetarian. Then afterwards they tell you the truth.. and laugh!
because you are15 dear and they are family and they are just having fun with you and you need to lighten up. You don't ssem to have a problem buying vegetarian foods ( an using your parents' money to buy it) and eating it in front of them do you? If we were follow your logic of what is rude, isn't that being rude to them too?
All of those who say nasty things about your family, are you going to allow that? They can call your famiy stupid and ignoant? These and their opinion of you loved ones are now more important than your family simply because they are vegetarian like you are?
If you are still living under your parents, you'd better bear the consequences. You are actually fortunate because your mom hasn't starved you to death by not buying veggies. Also, you can't prevent them from eating meat since I assume that you are eating together and they are not vegetarians at all. Don't be sensitive about this one. It'll pass.
Your age is very prone to teasing and the likes. If you are advocating a vegan diet, hold on since the world thinks that being a vegetarian sucks. I support you and there are a lot of people out there who salutes you too.
Good luck!
I don't know why, I have a sister that does the same thing. And she is in her thirties! She is getting married and told me "We are having chicken and steak at the reception, oh thats right, you don't eat meat. Guess you'll starve!" She said it all snotty too. Them eating it in front of you may not be purposely rude, but them saying things to you is.
Don't listen to the thing above that says they are just having fun with you, I know what you are going through and that is not just having fun. It is something else.
Because it's easy.
Being a vegetarian makes you (and me) an outcast. It's easy to pick on you because you're outnumbered.
If you want it to stop there are a few strategies:
1. Ignore them. This usually works best. Most of the people are just trying to get a rise from you, and if you never fall into their trap, they get bored and leave you alone.
2. Diffuse the situation with humor. The old, "I'm not a vegetarian becaue I love animals... I'm a vegetarian because I hate plants." routine works wonders.
3. LAST RESORT...Theatrics. Example: While having dinner at your relative's house, they will not stop talking about how great their meat is and how vegetarianism is stupid. When they finally stop talking, look them in the eye and calmly say, "I love you very much, so why do you hate me? If this is how you're going to act around me, then I don't want to be around you anymore." Then calmly get up and leave without talking to anyone on the way out. This is a psychological mind f***. It immediately makes them the "bad guy" and everyone will agree with you. I would only use something this drastic in severe situations, as it can cause a lot of tears and awkwardness for awhile.
No idea.
My family have never done so. But my family show respect and manners around all food, and respect and manners around people they care for, also.
I know my family does the same thing to me!!!!!They are all bitches, oh yeah im 14..ahhahahaha, i dont really care i will get them back one day when they die of madd cow disease or when i become filthy rich, they wont get a nickel out of me.