Veganism and the family?!
I respect his right to choose but should I be expected as the main cooker of the house to cook him meat? And as the main shopper should I still buy cows milk for him to have with his cereal?
Answers: I have decided to start becoming a vegan, the problem is that my partner of 4 years and the father of my 2 children is not the most open minded person and I know that he is probably going to complain about it
I respect his right to choose but should I be expected as the main cooker of the house to cook him meat? And as the main shopper should I still buy cows milk for him to have with his cereal?
here is what you do:-
1) you calmly and rationally express your view of the situation: why you do not want to eat meat.
2) You explain that your life with him is very important and so are your own values.
3) Ask him what he would like as a compromise.
4) suggest what you would like, but tell him you want to compromise.
5) Have a plan, example: you cook three meat dinners, and the rest are vegetarian or vegan
6) You work out a very cheap and effective way to make really good veg*n food.
7) you learn about health and nutrition and cook for your family
8) be a good example of the vegan lifestyle, don't get upset, you can do this.
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This is a good start. you can email me if you need more ideas.
if he wants meat he can cook it himself.
and if he wants cows milk he can get in the car and buy his own.
If you are the main cook of the house, and always have been, you can still cook him meat and buy him cows milk.
Just because you are a vegan, doesn't mean you can force it on others. It is rude, cruel, ignorant and selfish. Also, rather self-righteous.
By all means be a vegan - but don't start being a ***** just because your husband isn't.
Cook him what he wants, but also cook him some vegan meals for him to try sometimes, he may enjoy it with you.
do it gradually
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He is an adult - he should be quite capable of cooking for himself. However, if you've been cooking, you should try to cook whatever vegan meals he pleases, and try to cook ones that he likes.
Is he the breadwinner? If so, and you stay home, I don't think it's terribly fair to expect him to make special trips to the grocery store. Use his money, buy him meaty 'convenience foods' and milk, but don't prepare them for him. If you're the breadwinner and he's the one with more time on his hands, I don't think it's unreasonable to expect him to buy and prep his meaty foods.
Maybe you can come to a compromise - you'll buy organic, free range eggs or pasture-raised milk or such, but no meat, or you'll buy him free-range meats. It really depends on what works for you guys - I will buy my boy meat, but he pays for it, always, and he agreed to buy only buy free-range eggs.
I'm vegetarian but my son and partner both eat meat.
I too am the 'cook' so they pretty much have to eat what they are given.
I do cook meat for them on occasions but it's usually only something I have to have limited involvement with. Like for example a chicken breast, which I just wrap in foil and cook in the oven until done.
As far as the milk situation, I use Soya milk but they both use cows, it's not a problem buying both, and when doing things that require milk - porridge for example I just use the Soya and they are non the wiser.
I understand you decision to change your eating but you shouldn't force this on others, fair enough you shouldn't have to cook the meat, and like the first respondent said he can cook his own if he wants it, but the milk thing really is no big deal. Having it in the fridge isn't going to affect you in any way.
EDIT: I have to say I’m a little disgusted by all these 'it's his money' comments. Surely it's BOTH your money. OK so he goes out to work, but he is working for his family just like you stay home to take care of your family, cook for the family, clean for the family..... Surely as you are a partnership, that means SHARING. You both do your fair share. It may be different work and you may not get financial reward for it but you are still working.
A partnership is about compromise. You want him to accept you as vegan so in turn you must accept that he wants to eat meat. As I said it is the same in my family. My partner works so I can stay at home and take care of the children and house. Yes he earns the money but I do the shopping. I still always make sure it's full of things we can all eat, without making them go without because of my life style changes.
tell him, if he wants to eat animal products he can, but he would have to prepare his own meaty meals. Because he has to respect your choice not to support/promote animal products. Dont try to persuade him to be veg but just let him know of all the health benifits andwhat not. Make a vegan meal too show him that it tastes good, only dont tell him it is vegan. see what he says afterwards...if he likes it, then tell him it was vegan, if he doesn't than dont tell him. sometimes thats all you can do to closed minded people to make them more open minded.
You need to have a discussion with your partner about your new diet and how things will work. You also need to try to help them understand why you are going vegan. If you don't want to cook meat, perhaps he could pick up pre-cooked meats and heat them up for him and the kids while you cook your food and the family's side dishes. If he won't use plant milk with his cereal, look for organic milk for him.
Keep in mind that you will also want dishes that are for vegan cooking only.
The keys here are communication and compromise.
cook it for him, u dont have to eat it.! YUM MEAT! lol jk, im fasting right now so technically imma vegan. yuk =D oh well, i do it for jesus!
She doesn't want to FORCE her ideals on her husband; she just wants not to have them conflict with his. It depends on your idea of a vegan. Some vegans don't use any animal products, including cooking with them. Some use leather. I wouldn't do it, but I don't have a family, so I wouldn't really know.
So if they dont want to become vegans what you going to do? Make them cook their own? You cant force your ideals on other people, so yes I think your going to have to cook him his meat unless he is open to becoming the cook.
Yes of course you should. He has a right to his own opinions. My daughter pulled this vegan stuff on me when she was at home and it was a living nightmare.
i think its funny...he makes the money..buys all the food and u dont want him to buy the meat he wants but you want him to buy the vegan stuff u want...and its his money....buying the food is not gonna harm u...but dont expect him to understand that you want all your stuff but he cant get what he wants...and its HIS money....