My parents won't stop lecturing me about being vegan!!! They think I'm being too extreme. what should I do?!
Answers: It's driving me nuts they won't stop talking!!! I've tried reasoning with them but they think I'm hurting my self and it won't make a difference. I know they care about me but GRRR it's making me mad.
You need to have a more general discussion about how you all work together to make decisions.
And in that process you absolutely respect their opinions and ideas, but there are times when you may not agree. Also make it clear that your diet choices are not a protest or some crazy rebellion thing, but a lifestyle choice.
Ask if this is really bothering them and they can not stop bringing it up an and bugging you about it then, you suggest we all go to a family counselor and dietitian expert. Then if they decline, respond with the same thing. Please stop bringing this up, I asked to go to an expert to help us discuss this issue and you declined. If you think it is so important, than I am sure you can find the time to go to the counselor. Also you need to pick out someone independent, not one of their friends.
It is a bit odd, I mean you could be eating fast food, chips and candy, soda etc, like most younger folks. I guess that would be OK? Show your parents my note.
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PS, be fair, do not nag them if they have a steak.
learn to just tune it out and pretend your listening, they'll get over it lol
awwh poor thing.
ignore them!
MEAT is murder!
Tell them that you're a vegan and nothing they will say can change your mind. and that's that.
Take a bite out of spam and puke all over the floor in front of them. Cry for the rest of the day because an animal had to die just so you could make a point.
I know it seems a little strange, but I think it might work.
be who you are! if you dont like meat or dairy then dont eat it!
if they are concered about nutrition then ask then about daily vitamins!=D
i am kind of a vegan right now too, havent ate meat for 4 days
Talk with them about the situation and tell them that you will go see your doctor with them. Sitting down with a doctor will make them feel like you can be healthy and vegan. Plus a lot of vegans aren't healthy, they don't know what they have to eat to have a balanced diet so your doctor will be able to inform you on certain things that you do need to eat and still stick to being vegan.
Parents can be pretty close-minded. They're only trying to get you on a healthy diet so you can include all the proteins you need to grow up strong and healthy. If you have tried reasoning with them, I don't think there's much you can do.
If they're worried that you aren't getting enough iron, tell them you're going to take an iron pill if you're feeling weak. Everything should be fine. =]
tell them to get over it in the nicest way possible and just do your own thing. if they don't want to except it they don't have to. you won't live with your parents forever.good luck!!
Prove to them that you are making a healthy choice by STAYING HEALTHY. -Don't let your weight drop, take multivitamins, and keep yourself from becoming sick. -That way, they can't say that you are making a bad choice.
I admire you, and hang in there!
I understand about not wanting to eat animals. I would have your parents go see a nutritionist with you so you can get proper information about what foods you should be eating together. Being a Vegan is difficult and you can end up with nutritional defiencies easily. If you and your parent have the right information then you will be ok and they'll see what you have to eat and know that you're getting proper nutrition.
I appreciate your decision of being Vegan. If you think its right, dont change for anybody.
Everyone can flow with the current, one who stands against it is the MAN.
As long as something is not hurting other beings, its good. Be calm, patient, kind and your parents will one day understand you. Patience is the name of the game.
They are lecturing you to BE a vegan?
Or lecturing you ABOUT being a vegan?
I think you should just tell them to accept your decisions and try to get them to understand.
I assume you know a lot about the abuse done to animals and things like that, so why don't you tell them that.
And tell them WHY you are a vegan.
If they are the ones trying to get you to become one then tell them you love diary and meat. And could careless about the animals..
Educate them.
http://www.pcrm.org/
http://www.vegsource.com/
http://www.drmcdougall.com/
These are a beginning. Hope it helps. :)
Talk to them. Tell them why your vegan. Research healthy ways to be vegan and still eat right. Don't get me wrong wrong i love eating meat. ok anyway talk to your parents.
I know the feeling, I recently became a vegetarian (I can't be a vegan.. man I need my cheese and eggs I know it's terrible and if you want to help animals you need to go the whole way but what would I eat?!?!?! EVERYTHING has milk in it and so many good foods - even veggie dishes at restaurants - have cheese on them...)anyway I feel I have no support from any of my family or friends, and they always make snide comments or jokes about it at dinner. "Oh hey want some chicken? Gravy on your potatoes? Oh that's right you don't eat meat. Oh well more for me. MMmm chicken"
SHUT UP god do I mock you for eating meat? No, I don't try to force MY Choices on you so why force yours upon me? I can understand that they're concerened, as well as your parents probably are too, about lacking certain nutrients that you can only get in meats but really, there are supplements and as long as you're smart about the way you eat and do your research then what's the problem? I know lots of very healthy vegans and vegetarians, and most are healthier than meat eaters.
Just tell your parents to let you make your own "mistakes" in life and that you could be doing a lot worse things. When you say stuff like that it makes them happy, cuz it's kind of like telling them you know they're right, but you don't actually have to agree with them. See what I'm saying? I hope so. (If not... I'm not saying what you're doing is a mistake! I'm on your side!)
Good luck!
well honestly veganism is okay as long as you get protein. that is the biggest problem with veganism. many vegans dont get enough protein and become malnourished and lack vital muscle. tell them about your new thing and tell them how they can help you stay healthy. this way they will feel like they are doing something and thusly will learn more. when parents worry about these things it is because they feel helpless. tell them that they can help if they research it and stuff. a tip: look up as many sites on it as you can beforehand and pick the ones you find will help your cause. i would suggest some that are pro vegans and some that are informational.
i know exactly what u mean...im going throu the same thing...
just continue with ur vegan ways and never back down.....and when they lecture u ...just keep quiet and listen....and after theyre done just nod and leave the room...that wud give them the satisfaction that u would take whatever they said into consideration....and eventually they'll accept it and stop....thats what ive done and still am doing..and my parents stopped lecturing for the time being...but still continue to give me....the ''im not hapy with wat ur doing'' looks.....but it'll pass...
dont worry....everything will turn out fine......
and im a living proof
good luck... and hope this helps..
If you are sure you are getting a proper balance of proteins in your diet (the most critical thing for a vegan), then ignore your parents. When they criticize, just smile at them and don't respond. You have tried reasoning, and it didn't work, so the next tactic is non-response. If your mother (or father) go on and on, wait for a break and say, "Are you finished for today? Can we talk about something important to me for a change?" Just don't react, and don't respond to their statements.
Tell them how you feel, if they still don't care just ignore them. What else can you do?
You must become an omnivore like the rest of your species. You are ruining the circle of life lol
Stop being gay and eat some grilled chicken its good for you
Red meat is the best kind of meat. MMMMM delicious prime rib.
And your a Vegan WHY??? I'm with them!
try to eat meat for a day then theyll get off ur back. u sound a little emo. id be careful.
Whether you want to believe it or not you probably are hurting yourself. Humans need meat! They have been eating it for centuries!!!! Not liking the taste is one thing--but not eating it for any other reason is ridiculous...
Munch on some Broccoli or something while they're freakin out.
If that doesn't work you should read James Clavell and act like the Chinese & Japanese in those novels: Lie and claim you were "lazy" about where you got it (like Kroger, or something) and that it [some of the vegan food] has "[trans] fats." Then let them smile in satisfaction while saying stuff like: "Oh honey, you need to calm down...<blah, blah, blah>"
So they agree to "meet you halfway" and let you eat your "flawed" vegan food, and you go about your business.
Wolf down a stake [or half a chicken], just to shock them. You're at that age where doing that kind of thing is expected of adolescents. Go with the flow, startle them. It'll give you something to laugh later in life "Remember that time when I took the chicken from dad's plate and just totally -ate- the whole thing?" [laughter all around].
Eating meat once won't make you a horrible person.
They say that eventually humans will seperate into two categories, humans with a weaker lower jaw and flatter teeth with no real canines, the offspring of vegetarians who become vegetarians, and humans that look closer to the ones today. Just eat some meat.
id say gradually do it so as they dont get mad just change ur mind turning into a vegetarian..so that u eat at least some type of meat so ur body doesnt convulse and go into iron withdrawls...etc until u start eating right c nutrionists..otherwise health problems may incur and ur parents will go say ha we todl u so