Should I allow my son to have a sleep over at a non-vegan family's home?!


Question: Should I allow my son to have a sleep over at a non-vegan family's home!?
I am worried that these meat eaters will try to intrdouce him to meat!.Www@FoodAQ@Com


Answers:
Even though i am a vegetarian my daughter and my husband eat fish!. One day my daughter went to stay at her friend's house to play for the day!. I told the mother that Braxton didn't eat meat!. She said okay!. I even asked her if it would be a problem because I could pick her up something right then to eat later!. She said it wasn't!.

When I picked my daughter up she told me about how they grilled her about not eating meat!. They wanted to know if it was a religious thing (not)!. Then they wanted to know if it was a black thing (so not)!. They had pork for dinner!. The girl's mother told her that it was okay to eat it and that she didn't have to tell me if she ate it!. I was kind of pissed off when my daughter told me about it!. I don't want to end the friendship between my daughter and this little girl!. I decided to just take my daughter something to eat when she goes over there!.

I talked to the mother and I repeated to her that I don't feed my daughter meat and that I would not allow her daughter to come to my house and do something that she had specifically told her not to do!. I told her that my daughter told me what she said had said!. She apologized and promised never to do it again!. From now on I plan to take my daughter's food over there the next time she visits!.Www@FoodAQ@Com

If you are never planning to expose your child to the ways of meat eaters- be prepared!. It is natural for kids to want to share and betolerant of others- teaching him that eating meat is evil, gross or unnatural will lead him not only to rebelliousness and lots of sneaking to McDonalds- but also a deep seated belief that your love is conditional upon his conformity!.

Teach him healthy dietary habits!. Don't make meat the "forbidden fruit" - other's may see it as a special treat for him if they don't share your beliefs!. Instead of making a big fuss out of it, just explain to him that in your family, you don't eat animal products!. If he tries it when not in your presence- ask him what he thought of it and why!? Don't punish, communicate!Www@FoodAQ@Com

It depends if their willing to respect the fact he's vegan, if their willing to respect that and feed him the things he'd eat at home, or even if their willing to feed him food you give them for him, i think it should be ok!.

Don't worry too much, just send him there and you give them food that he maybe likes, that way, he can eat that and wont have to rely on being fed from the people he's staying with!.

I think they probably would respect he's vegan though but you can judge that better than i can :)Www@FoodAQ@Com

I think that you as his mother are the only one who can make that decision!. With experience as a kid however, I would say that the day will come when your son wants to make his own choices, and he may come to resent the fact that you want him to be a vegan!. Then again, he may not!. But i think it would be good for him to be exposed to both kinds so that he has an idea what he thinks about it!.
Like I said before, the decision is ultimately up to you, but i do think that you should listen to his opinions as he gets older, and let him help make some of his decisions so he doesnt feel like you are the Queen of his life!. I hope this answer helped you!! :)Www@FoodAQ@Com

Of course - you shouldn't stop your child from staying at friends' houses just because their views and dietary habits conflict with yours!. As long as he politely lets the other family know of his dietary requirements in advance of the event, then everything should be ok, but please allow him to have friends of different viewpoints, as he'll then thank you for allowing him to make up his own mind on issues as he's growing up!. He'll also be less likely to grow up with prejudiced views of other people in society, which can only be a good thing - there's too much prejudice in the world today, and life's too short to act in such a petty manner!.Www@FoodAQ@Com

I am a meat eater & would first ask you the details of the vegan diet, as I know it is different from vegetarian & I know there are different levels of vegetarian (some eat fish or chicken, but not red meat!. Some drink milk or dont etc!.!.)!. As I dont know where to buy vegan food, I would ask you to bring over food for him & I could prepare it!. I would certainly respect the fact that you have a restricted diet that you & your family follows!. It is not my job to question if your child should participate in it as others here have!.

I would certainly not force my eating habits on you or your child as I am sure you would not do so to me & mine!. The only future problem that I see with this would be if you ever have the other boy over to your house!. He would be forced (I dont mean that in a negative way!) to eat vegan!.

It has been my experience that most vegans are not as accepting of meat eaters as we are of them!. Most will not even allow the food in the home, none less prepare it for a non vegan!. NOTICE I SAID MOST, NOT ALL!. That is something that you will have to make clear to the parents if/when you have him over!. Then it will be thier call to allow him to go to you!.Www@FoodAQ@Com

after reading all these posts I am shocked at the disregard of a parents concern over her child and what he is exposed to!!

what if the child was highly allergic to peanuts!.!.!.then everyone would say "yes, forewarn and protect!."

meat eaters do not understand that someone who does not eat meat!.!.!.

that the eating of it will make a person very ill!. like bad flu or worse!.

telling the child that it is ok and we will not tell, etc!.!.!.

The child has never eaten meat and the body will not know what it is and will reject it as a foreign bad thing, some times violently!.

How would you feel getting a call from the ER because someone fed your child something at a sleep over that made them very sick!? because it that was not part of their diet!?!?

could very easily become a child endangerment issue if the child became really really sick!.!.!.

My kids are ADHD and red 40, refined sugars, nitrates were a bad thing for them!.!.!.A teacher would give them a jolly rancher candy for doing good work!.(Dumb idea!.) And the school/ teacher had been informed many times!.!.!.1 jolly rancher equaled 48 hrs non stop speed of chipmunks( twin girls)

There is a reason of "do not fed the bears"Www@FoodAQ@Com

oh gees!.!.you don't have to seperate him from other people just because they don't eat a vegan diet!.

how old is he!? i would hope he is old enough to make his own choices, if they offer him non-vegan food he can simply decide whether he wants to take it or not!. but he should also know that eating certain things can make him sick since he is not used to them!.

just call them and let the family know ahead of time, or send some food with him to eat!.Www@FoodAQ@Com

Heya

Yes i would let him go as its not fair to deprive him his childhood just because of diet choice!. I would talk to the parents first and make them aware !. I would probably send him with some vegan products to snack on!. I dont think they would purposly make him eat meat!. =] xxxWww@FoodAQ@Com

You worry about all the wrong things!. Let your son grow up and make his own choices about what he likes to eat!. He is on track to be a man someday!.!.!.!.!.!.try to keep your eye on the big picture!. Children will likely eat what they are accustom too at home!. Meat has kept humans alive for millions of years!. Being overzealous is far more dangerous than a cheeseburger!Www@FoodAQ@Com

Don't be ridiculous!. You are willing to limit your child's social circle because of "your" dietary beliefs!? Give yourself a shake!.
Most of us meat eaters respect others choices!. Send food with your child and vegan snacks and let him go have some fun!. I'll bet his friends are more curious about what he eats than turning him into a carnivore!. Relax!.Www@FoodAQ@Com

No, meat juices will have permeated the very fabric of the house!.

If he goes, you should never let him back in your house, his clothes will have dead animal cells on them!.

You would be best to stick to your beliefs and dis-own him for even thinking about being friends with a meat-eaterWww@FoodAQ@Com

You should tell them he is highly allergic to meat and could die if he ate it, then they would defiantly not give it to him!. If it we me I would respect your wishes but you seem worried about these people so there must be a reason!.Www@FoodAQ@Com

Of course you should let him!.!.I would talk with the parents and let them now that he is a vegan!.!. The world is full of non vegans!.Your son should be exposed to to meat eaters and let him decide whats best for him as he gets older!.!.Www@FoodAQ@Com

This is going a bit to far!. I'm sure your son is exposed to meat eating in school, etc!.

BTW: If he does eat meat, while he's at the sleepover, he will get sick since his system isn't used to eating meat!. I'd share this fact with him!.Www@FoodAQ@Com

This person is a non-vegan troll who posts here trying to make vegans look stupid!.

There is really no need to treat the question seriously and give genuine replies!.Www@FoodAQ@Com

Yes, just make sure his parents are aware of his dietry requirements - just like you would if he had an allergy to Wheat!.Www@FoodAQ@Com

OMG!.!.!. LET YOUR SON CHOOSE WHAT HE WANTS TO EAT! YOU CAN NOT CONTROL HIS HABBITS FOREVER!Www@FoodAQ@Com

how old is your son and if he is a teenager let him eat whatever he wants to eatWww@FoodAQ@Com

ASHLEY!!!! where have you been!? we've missed your idiotic comments!. =)

glad ashley the troll could come out from under her bridge to entertain us today!Www@FoodAQ@Com

I would!. If you know the parents, I would call them and tell them he is on a "special diet!."Www@FoodAQ@Com

if he goes over there and they do then HE will decide if he wants to eat meat or not!.Www@FoodAQ@Com

I agree, this is going a bit to far!. Just talk to him before he goes and tell the mom about his diet!.Www@FoodAQ@Com

Welcome backWww@FoodAQ@Com

if they do and he accepts it than he obviously wants to eat meatWww@FoodAQ@Com

Yes, you should, fake Ashley!.Www@FoodAQ@Com

Wow, where ya been!? We haven't had any decent trolling in here for awhile now!.Www@FoodAQ@Com

ASK HIM WHAT HE WANTS

DON'T ASK US!



HEE HEEWww@FoodAQ@Com

Yes, let him have some good food for a change!.!!!Www@FoodAQ@Com





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