My grandmother tricked me into eating .....?!
My grandmother tricked me into eating .....?
My grandma who i love with all my heart made get really angry during lunch!!!! she knows i dont eat animals or animal products its been like this for 1yr... she always cooks food for me (no meat) and respects my beliefs but today she made rice with chicken juices i think it was leftover from a boiled chicken..at first i couldn't see it but then i saw a piece of skin or something weird and I almost wanted to throw up when i realized it was chicken. Why cant people respect my wishes???!!!?? and some family members label me as a stuck up girl just because i refuse a dish they made....why?? i feel so bad because they think that im just a very delicate girl that needs little special food for my delicate stomach..!! i hate that i hate it!!!!
Additional Details3 days ago
she invites me to lunch at her house every once in while...i dont ask for it.
Answers: 3 days ago
she invites me to lunch at her house every once in while...i dont ask for it. You need to know why she fed this to you before you can make your choice. I am sorry that your choice was violated either way.
If it was an accident, tell her or make a list of the things you won't eat. Be ready with easy alternatives and include them in your list. Tell her for example if she is making rice for you to put some in another pot to cook, etc.
If intentional then make it clear what foods are acceptable and let her know that you won't eat anything that you have your doubts about. Then go to the store and pick up food that you feel comfortable with that has a long shelf life and is quick to cook/heat. Leave it there that way you can have a choice about what to eat.
I have to do this with some people because of my allergies. It is hard but once you set it up you can take charge of your life and health.
Either way be patient with her; you will have wished you had when she dies. My gran died a little while ago but she lived with me for a while before. Everyday she tried to feed my service dog white bread and mustard (actually prescribed by the vet to make a dog throw up) and feed me coffee crisp (I am gluten intolerant). She meant well but I had to be on guard for me and my dog. I lost my temper with her a few times and it makes me cry to think about it. So be patient and take control of your own life. Don't apologize for your decisions. Too bad that your family doesn't understand. It's a shame that they aren't more accommodating, but sometimes you have a few challenges when your ideas differ from loved ones. Good for you for sticking to your convictions. That is so awful, you have every right to be mad.
You are not stuck up, they are! There is nothing wrong with how you choose to eat or live your life. the fact that they can't respect that makes them stuck up.
They wouldn't need to abuse your beliefs if they were so secure in their own. It is really hard to cook for one person who insists on a different diet from anyone else. You could try cooking for yourself.
Okay - read your extra note. That was unfair. I would just tell her "no thank you" and stick to your beliefs. Did she trick you or was she just not thinking? If it's the former, then it's time to start making your own food. Tell your grandmother that she violated your trust and has hurt you deeply.
If it's the latter, explain to her that chicken stock/juice is not acceptable to you.
But, to prevent future issues, make your own food.
As far as your family thinking you are stuck up, talk to your school guidance counselor about ways to deal with them. Screaming "i hate that i hate that" isn't a good way of dealing with it. Instead, discussing it with them in an adult like manner, explaining that you don't refuse food because you are a brat but because of your personal beliefs, may help. A counselor will help you come across as non-aggressive and non-confrontational and may help immensly.
Good luck to you. : ) oh, i really feel for you. why is it that they can have an opinion on your beliefs, yet you can't have your own? just stay strong, and know that you've got chiccat supporting you : ) I think your family doesn't realize how important this decision is to you. Perhaps you could pass along some reading material about vegetarianism to help them understand. It's also possible that they feel somehow inferior to you because they're still eating animals (they might not even realize this themselves).
By the way, I think what your grandmother did was unconscionable.
On a lighter note, there's a wonderfully funny movie called Mother in which a grown man (who's a vegetarian) moves back home with his mother. There's a great scene where she keeps offering him food like beef stew, and he has to keep explaining to her why he can't eat it. I'm sorry I feel that you need to get a job and buy your own food and cook it yourself if you're so adamant about putting your family in charge of fulfilling YOUR choice, I was a vegetarian for 20 years and I started out at age 14. My mom said she wouldn't go out of her way to cook my special food, so I made it myself and it was delicious and so get over it and tell them from now on you'll cook your own food and because they can't respect your lifestyle choice you will not eat the meals they prepare. Simple as that, and if you don't know how to cook, then learn. The reason why your grandmother made you food with meat in it is because she's worried about your health, she loves you duh! Vegetarians need to make sure they get enough protein and other important vitamins, minerals, amino acids etc. etc. keep on top of things. completely understand - i have friends that consider me less of a "man" because i choose to not eat meat. Talk about a mind screw, here I am trying to better the world and my life and I am somehow less of a guy's guy becase of it. Oh well, life goes on and if they cant respect my lifestyle, i'll surround myself with people who do. You cant kick G-ma to the curb, but you can set the tone next time by refusing to eat her meal in protest. Toughin up. A little piece of chicken is not going to kill you. It might actually do you some good. It doesn't sound like grams did it on purpose.
I am not a vegetarian, but I do respect people's right to choose thier diet. I used to be best friends with a vegetarian, so when everyone else went to Jack in the box she would order a bun, some cheese, lettuce, and tomato. It ended up costing her about 60 cents to eat while we gobbled down $6 combo meals! We never thought she was stuck up, and she never made a big deal about eating out. She could always find something on the menu to eat and it was a nonissue.
That being said, if you can't get grams to respect your wishes with food, go ahead and cook for yourself. Use lots of herbs and spices and make your family jealous! My daughter is also a vegeterian in a family of meat eaters. I have seen some dishes that people have tried to trick her into eating meat. Even though she doesn't live with me anymore, I always keep some food at the house that she can eat just in case she drops by for a meal. People who don't respect your, and her, vegeterianism are pretty sorry. If you had a food allergy, who would try to make you eat that food? Tell them how you feel. Been here done this. It is so angerfying when people disrespect a person desire to be meat free. However, being that it was Grandma, I think she just needs a good talking to. Sit her down and explain to her that she has violated a trust. Ask her if she wants you to stop eating everything she makes? Tell her how important it is to you. My mom was the same way. At first she was sure I would die from my vegetarianism. To her surprise I have not. She did have a lot to learn, but has accepted it pretty well and quickley stopped any deceit about what is in the food. She is the first to let me know now days what is in what. Don't judge the old girl too harshly. She probably didn't think broth was that big a deal. We used to add it to lots of things back in the day to give them a little extra flavor, especially rice, which doesn't really taste like much of anything unless you season it. Maybe she thought if she left the actual meat out, it would be okay. I'd give her the benefit of the doubt if I were you. OK, first of all, let's give Gramma the benefit of the doubt. You have a right to be mad; but maybe she didn't understand that broth would bother you. Different people have different ideas on what vegitarians will eat. Some will eat eggs, some will eat fish...you get the idea.
So let's assume she thought that your issue was with meat, and that broth would be OK. You should make sure she understands what you will (and will not) eat.
If she tries to tell you that you're being silly or something, THEN you have a right to be mad at her.
Oh, and old people can be forgetful. Maybe she knows, but didn't think about it when she was cooking.
And if the problem is that she's old or that she doesn't care, you'll have to ask her every time what is in the food she's serving. i am a vegetarian to but my family respects me.ur family should respect the fact that ur a veggie! email me at vflower126@yahoo.com if u need advice or something. she may have done it by accident & gave you the wrong plate ask her. anyway it's wrong for them to think that way about you. It's a culture thing all cultures feel it's an insult not to eat everything made and presented. I think it's an insult to make people eat when they dont want. just say no thank you and they need to get over it. ignore them & dont go to lunch a few times to show them they need to grow up & tell grandma why...she'll straighten them up Kill her. Watch out though, her AK-47 is loaded. MAYBE SHE MADE A MISTAKE !! You do know that humans are not infallible? well u still likes ur grandma
i 'll hate her for life
i don;t have to worry about these kinds of things cuz i don't eat dinner with my family or lunch or anything cuz i hate them
my parents are freaky fish people You know what, I just think that some people don't really understand it. My uncle invited my family over for hamburgers and I brought my own favourite vegi Burger for myself. When he brought the cooked supper my vegi burger was sitting under a "meat" burger. I almost died. Don't let anyone get to you. Make sure you invite them over for a wonderful vegi meal so they can see how you really eat. My dad asked me what kind of sandwiches can you eat..lettuce? if she normally goes out of her way to prepare a vegetarian meal , she probrably thought ,"it's just broth and you aren't eating the meaty part of the chicken." i am sure grandma didnt mean any harm. you may have to explain your eating habits more clearly . it's a VERY common mistake that families make with vegetarians . That was a very cruel thing for her to do. It's been almost 4 yrs since I went veg. My family still doesn't really like it, but they respect it. It just takes time sweetheart, they'll get used to it over time. They may still make mean remarks, but just know that you're the better person. The average vegetarian saves 95 animal lives a year - think about that! It may have been a mistake rather then her trying to trick you. I've been vegan for a very long time, and my grandparents have a hard time remembering that chicken broth or fat is NOT vegan.
Remember that vegetarianism and veganism is very new and unfamiliar for older people. Now, before I eat anything they make I politely ask what's in it. Many times my grandma will begin listing the ingredients, and then stop and say "oh, wait, you can't eat this".