The other night in a drunken stuper, I really yelled at my boyfriend. This was the first time I have EVER...?!
Answers: ..done such a thing. We have been together for almost 3 years and I was staying at his house for thanksgiving. The night before we went out and got drunk-BOTH of us. But as the night ended, as many couples do, we fought over some stupid crap. However, we brought it back to his parents house and my loud drunk mouth woke them up. I apologized in the morning for my behavior and said I was totally embarrased and apologize for being rude. I normally don't yell for one thing and they had to hear me in the midst of it. I feel terrible. And now I feel like they can't look me in my eyes. For all they know, I could be like this, but I'm not and my boyfriend and I are even over it realizing it was a drunken stupid thing. I feel terrible and Thanksgiving the next day was terribly awkward. My boyfriend was still mad and avoiding contact with me and his parents were obviously sticking to their son. Will they like me again? I feel terrible about it. I apologized so what else can I do??
It's going too be awkward for a while, that's unfortunately how things go. As long as you & your boyfriend know that it was only because you were drunk his parents will get over it and especially since nothing happened that was serious. Depending on your personality I would do one of two things... 1. next time you see them make light of it even joke a bit. Or, 2. Just forget it but tell yourself that it is ok.
You were drunk. And yelling is a more than understandable result of it. You could have done worst and they should understand unless they've never drunk before.
wow thats a bad situation. i dont think your boyfriend should be mad at you, he knows you were drunk. you should just do some serious apoligizing to his parents until they forgive you
You've been with him for 3 years & his parents don't know that you're not like that? I don't know, Brandy! Do you really think he is "the one"? You seem to not really get along too well with him. I think you need to decide where you want this relationship to go. Good luck. (((hugs)))
Make sure your boyfriend explains that you were not at your best.
We all make poor decisions and act the fool.
His parents know that.
Just be on good behavior in the future.
In my family we hold our worst behavior for the holidays.
Our worst behavior isn't as bad as the (Marvin) Gaye family behavior or the Blades family of Seattle.
We all get drunk and stressed and do stupid shite on T-Day.
It will pass!
Alcohol is like a truth serum. Often times, we will say things that have been on our mind when we are under the influence that we would never say when we are sober. You need to evaluate the conversation and then decide whether or not you want to be with him.
Three years isn't that long...is he a "momma's boy"? If so, he needs to detach.
Hi there,
I have been married for 2 years now so let me tell you something from my own experiences.
First impressions are lasting impressions with the in laws.
A girlfriend/daughter in law is always the outsider.. no matter what.
Based on your case what you could do is
- Call his parents and thank them for hosting you.
- Apologize again and tell them you hope to see them soon
- Send them a thank you card with a small present
- Send them something really really personal and nice for Christmas
-Try to visit them and drop by with a home baked item
- Attempt to establish a direct relationship with the inlaws. This way they won't be too judgemental.
Remember, lots of presents always mean your showing your gratitude and appreciation
I wish you all the very best in your life.
Good Luck
Your story reminds me of a thing I learned in my alcohol class, you can't save up good behavior. Once you do a bad thing all your prior good behavior is now null and void.
Your going to have to hope you can patch things up, and don't screw up again, remember what I said about behavior
Holidays and liquor don't mix, I can't tell you how many times in my class I have heard stories just like yours. Are you becoming a problem drinker? is your boyfriend one? are both of you enabling each other to get drunk?
Obviously there is a problem or you wouldn't of asked what to do. You need to ask some real honest questions about yourself and what your going to do about it.