Are you OFFENDED if someone tells you that you might have a drinking problem?!
Answers: i'm not speaking to people who drink now-and-then. i'm speaking to the people who KNOW they drink everyday and that they may possibly have a problem. I met someone who drinks shot after shots of vodka/tequila with beer backs. I don't know if he would be offended if i brought this to his attention.
I would imagine that a lot of the people here are used to it by now.
he already knows..you have to ask why he does it?
They will be offended especially if it does not effect their relationships or responsibilities -although one day it might. If you feel this person is loosing control of their life (lost job, lost family, depressed) then it is a good thing to let them know they have a problem - but don't be surprised if they deny it or even stop being friends with you. People who drink to excess often do not have a clear view of reality. Good Luck!
Not at all, ialready know i have a somewhat serious problem!
YEs I have been told that in the past and it is offensive but they need to know. I changed after i was told that.
There are some people who are proud of it - they think it makes them look like a bad a**, so they will tell you "so!" Thats when you know that person is trying to do what they are doing, and is really just falling into the pressure of society. These people will eventually stop drinking, its not really them. Occasionally they will force themselves into the problem I listed below.
Others will tell you no, and deny that they have a problem. Such as my fiancee. Thats when you know their problem is serious and help will be hard. Some people have a past of doing hard drugs and have stopped, so they have substituted it with alcohol. Some have just been pressured into it for too long. No matter the cause, these people are hard to deal with and get angry when you point out the obvious.
Basically what I am saying is if you dont know this person well, and if you are afraid of hurting a friendship, dont say much (he could get VERY angry). But If you think it is more important than a friendship (which in my opinion, it is) then speak up. He needs to hear it.
A lot of people are offended, particularly if you are an outsider. They will see you as a busybody.
Experience.
It would offend me, even though I readily will admit to it.
I just look at it as though it is my business only. Now if it were my wife saying it, that is a different story.
Why, no. I am not offended. As long as they top me off, they are still my friendsh.