How to avoid drinking and women?!
Answers: Is some one who can give me good tips to avoid drinking and women......
Dear Shaolin,
It is a good start that you started to think this way. I don't know your age nor the details when you started your first drink.
People start drinking during their college days (young days) when they feel that their "EGO" is being challenged by their friends.
But later on one should realise that it is not their ego but their "WILL POWER" that is being challenged. Once you strongly start beleiving in this you will develop a stronger will and slowly get rid of this habit.
Try telling a person (not your friend ) who drinks, to stop drinking. This will make you feel positive and will help you to do the same.
If friends laugh at you for trying to stop drinking, try to give them the reason that your health is not permitting.
Again tell your self that they are challenging your WIll POWER.
Please don't try to controll. You can come out of it only by understanding.
I don't know if you are a religious and a sprituial minded person. I don't know if you are married.
Ask some questions 1) Do you appriciate and support some one stealing some one's money ? Property ? and have you ever tried doing this?
Your answer should be an emphatic "NO". Probably you may think it is a very low, cheap act.
If it is so, don't you think that you have to apply the same rule to women who don't belong to you.
Many take shelter, and try to defend themselves that it is a basic instintct and don't feel sorry for their self centered act. But where as find other kind of acts as cheap and low and even go to the extent of criticising others.
Apply the same kind of selfless love ( without lust ) which you show to your family, to others also. This will solve your problem. Try to follow this as far as possible. " Don't hurt any one mentally or physically, directly or indirectly , knowingly or unknowingly" - Very difficult isn't it ? But try. Lust plays havoc in many families mentally and unknowingly. " and you should't be the cause.
If argument goes that "if consent is there what is the problem" "I don't hurt anybody's husband."
But for you, by repeatedly running after this your mind will go berserk, and it will prove a problem for you. You will find it difficult to come out of it.
All this don't control to come out of it. Try to understand and come out of it.
My best wishes to you.
Why live then :-)
the best way is self control.Guys who are mentally weak generally consume alcohol. Be a man and make ur regular drinking habit an occasional one.and about women I can only say that they are too attractive to be resisted.So no u can very well continue flirting but don't break anyone's heart. It really hurts!!! ALL THE BEST
Don't go into a pub.
stop going to bars. you will encounter women anywhere, but you don't have to drink....
If u dont like them...u will automatically avoid them..
Drinking , u can avoid totally.
Women, are mothers/sisters/life partners...why would u think of avoiding them.
Stay at home. We're everywhere.... and we're drinking and dancing on tables and flirting with guys. The more you resist us, the more we chase.
Haven't you heard that it's the thrill of the chase that keeps us coming back? hahahahaha
Foolish man.
But the real question is why ?
Answer that and the rest will be easy ;)
don't shower. don't brush your teeth. go for the whole barbarian look and smell for that matter. this should ward off any women, probably men and children as well. chances are that some of these men and women would be bartenders or clerks who will refuse to serve a patron with the distinct body odor of rot. if, though, you require bathing from time to time, i would suggest entering a ministry or becoming a hermit.
u can call it self control/will power/determination so on n' so forth
women, well, no one according 2 me is a total saint in this matter
but if really feel the conviction within u,
that just c'in a woman with a lustful eye, as per the BIBLE verse, is as good as committing ADULTERY,
better watch out
Kiss a man in public, that's a sure way to keep the girls away.
It's easy to give up drinking, take up something more strong. I won't make any suggestions, it's your choice.
start loving nature and this life...... Enjoy each & every moment of life..... Keep in mind, that this life is temporary...
Make your mind strong, avoiding drinking is a fine idea, but be, natural, decent and kind to the women
To avoid drink , try to love woman. and to leave woman try drink ........... one day , you will die and you would leave both of these.......
Thats really tough if you are habitual to these. But you still avoid these by controlling yourself.
Say, if you are working spend more of your time in your job and learning some extra skills.
If you are student, keep yourself busy with your studies and your hobbies.
See man, the idea is to keep youself so busy that you could not have time to think of drinking or women.
Or you can try joining some Meditation course also.
But the bottom line is, if you really want to avoid these habit then only you can avoid these.
All the best
dont go near to that. keep them away from you.
NO ONE CAN STOP U EXCEPT YOU
What about light beer in a gay bar?