My husband is VERY drunk!?!
My husband and his friends got wasted tonight at our house!. And right now my husband cant walk and even when he tries to stand up he falls over!. He's puking his guts out!.!.!. he's finally passed out and is snoring!.!.!. How long will it take before he's sober again!? Will he be alright!?
also he's been drinking like this every weekend, but tonight they were taking shots of Gin and well, he ended up like this!. I dont know how to get him to stop!. I never drink b/c we have 2 kids and I watch over them!. I'm just sick of this lifestyle!! UGH!.
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also he's been drinking like this every weekend, but tonight they were taking shots of Gin and well, he ended up like this!. I dont know how to get him to stop!. I never drink b/c we have 2 kids and I watch over them!. I'm just sick of this lifestyle!! UGH!.
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Answers:
it will take him several hours before the alcohol wears off and he's finally back to normal!.
let him sleep it off!. as someone else mentioned, keep water nearby for him to drink (small sips only-if he takes big gulps, he'll just throw it back up b/c his stomach is so irritated)!.
watch him closely over the next 6-8 hours!. If he continues to vomit and is unable to keep anything down (this includes water) or has no urine output in 8 hours then it's time to take him to the emergency room to be evaluated for dehydration and possible alcohol poisoning!. make sure that you have something close by for him to throw up in (you don't want him trying to walk to the bathroom) and make sure his head is elevated (he could choke when vomiting due to him being so drunk)!. wake him every so often to make sure he's doing ok brain-wise (not going into a coma)!.
keeping him hydrated is the most important thing-he shouldn't try to eat anything until the nausea/vomiting stops!. water only for the next 8 hours!!
once he's feeling better-it's time to lay down the law!. how long has this every weekend drinking binges been going on!? it stops now-and be firm with this!. he's a father now-time to start acting like one!. and be adament about NO more drinking parties at your home (I know that part of you might be doing this to keep him safe and so you know where he is but it's NOT good for your kids)!. put the idea in his head that he's fast on the road to becoming an alcoholic-is this the type of example he wants to set for his kids!? does he want them going around telling people when they are older "my dad's an alcoholic!." or how about having to attend AA meetings in the next year!? not something I'd look forward to!.
also, each time he drinks himself into a complete non-functioning stupor-he's doing major damage to his liver!. how'd he like to have all of his organs shutting down before he's 30!? being hooked up to a machine each week to flush out his kidneys (dialysis) b/c they no longer can work for themselves!?
I'm a nurse in trauma icu and i've seen more 30 year olds w/liver disease or kidney failure b/c of drinking than I have fingers and toes-it amazes me how many people think b/c they are young-alcohol won't affect them!.
If he doesn't take your talk w/him seriously, then it might be time for you to reconsider your marriage and what is best for your kids
also-I read from your nickname that you're military!. ask him how he'd like to have his commander (or the person in charge at the base he's stationed at) alerted to his little "drinking" problem!? did you know as a wife of military personnel-you've have TONS of support!. all you have to do is call his boss or find out who the person in charge of the base is and give them a call!. My dad was air force for 16 years and had a young GI under him that also had a drinking problem (every weekend binges just like your hubby)-one call to the commander of the base and this kid's butt was in a sling!. he was ordered into rehab for just 2 weekends of straight drinking!. it snapped his butt back into place-my dad never had an issue w/him after that (he was ordered to have random urine tests for months afterwards)!. Check into it if things get really bad or he doesn't want to listen to you
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let him sleep it off!. as someone else mentioned, keep water nearby for him to drink (small sips only-if he takes big gulps, he'll just throw it back up b/c his stomach is so irritated)!.
watch him closely over the next 6-8 hours!. If he continues to vomit and is unable to keep anything down (this includes water) or has no urine output in 8 hours then it's time to take him to the emergency room to be evaluated for dehydration and possible alcohol poisoning!. make sure that you have something close by for him to throw up in (you don't want him trying to walk to the bathroom) and make sure his head is elevated (he could choke when vomiting due to him being so drunk)!. wake him every so often to make sure he's doing ok brain-wise (not going into a coma)!.
keeping him hydrated is the most important thing-he shouldn't try to eat anything until the nausea/vomiting stops!. water only for the next 8 hours!!
once he's feeling better-it's time to lay down the law!. how long has this every weekend drinking binges been going on!? it stops now-and be firm with this!. he's a father now-time to start acting like one!. and be adament about NO more drinking parties at your home (I know that part of you might be doing this to keep him safe and so you know where he is but it's NOT good for your kids)!. put the idea in his head that he's fast on the road to becoming an alcoholic-is this the type of example he wants to set for his kids!? does he want them going around telling people when they are older "my dad's an alcoholic!." or how about having to attend AA meetings in the next year!? not something I'd look forward to!.
also, each time he drinks himself into a complete non-functioning stupor-he's doing major damage to his liver!. how'd he like to have all of his organs shutting down before he's 30!? being hooked up to a machine each week to flush out his kidneys (dialysis) b/c they no longer can work for themselves!?
I'm a nurse in trauma icu and i've seen more 30 year olds w/liver disease or kidney failure b/c of drinking than I have fingers and toes-it amazes me how many people think b/c they are young-alcohol won't affect them!.
If he doesn't take your talk w/him seriously, then it might be time for you to reconsider your marriage and what is best for your kids
also-I read from your nickname that you're military!. ask him how he'd like to have his commander (or the person in charge at the base he's stationed at) alerted to his little "drinking" problem!? did you know as a wife of military personnel-you've have TONS of support!. all you have to do is call his boss or find out who the person in charge of the base is and give them a call!. My dad was air force for 16 years and had a young GI under him that also had a drinking problem (every weekend binges just like your hubby)-one call to the commander of the base and this kid's butt was in a sling!. he was ordered into rehab for just 2 weekends of straight drinking!. it snapped his butt back into place-my dad never had an issue w/him after that (he was ordered to have random urine tests for months afterwards)!. Check into it if things get really bad or he doesn't want to listen to you
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Let him sleep till he feels like getting up, but watch him if you are able to make sure he's OK - if he is very very drunk, there is always a possibility that he might vomit and choke on the vomit while he's sleeping!. Make sure he has water next to him to drink if he wakes up in the meantime!. Should be at least 6 hours till he sobers up almost entirely - but probably will feel awful tomorrow!. Maybe that will help him learn his lesson before he does it next time - however, people's memories can be short about how bad they felt if they feel better after a day or so!. Not to judge, but you should probably talk to him seriously about his drinking, especially if he is doing in the house with your children and you are really bothered by it!. It's very easy for people to get out of control with drinking because it's basically a legal way to get high, and alcohol is readily available for anyone over 21!. It's something that needs to be kept in check because of that!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
He'll be fine in the morning, don't worry about that part!. The puking will actually help him; it will make the hangover easier!. But, have you told him how you feel about his drinking too much on the weekends!? If so, what does he say!? If you're really sick of it, and you've told him, and he hasn't stopped, or sought help to stop (if he can't stop on his own) then you need to give him some ultimatums!. Don't make empty threats (for example, don't say you're going to leave him if you don't intend to), but do give some consequences that you are prepared to carry out!. You will have to decide what those will be!. Maybe tell him his friends won't be welcome in your house!. Maybe tell him you and the kids won't go with him to your in-laws' house!. Just make sure he loses something important to him if he doesn't get his drinking under control and/or stop drinking!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
Alanon is a good support group!. Here is a link to them!. They also have on line chat sites where you can talk to people in similar situations!. My aunt and uncle had the same problem and it helped them!.
http://groups!.msn!.com/AlanonWww@FoodAQ@Com
http://groups!.msn!.com/AlanonWww@FoodAQ@Com
if hes knocked out then make sure hes sleeping on his stomach so he wont choke on vomit!. when he wakes up have him drink aaaallllot of water!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
Is your husband sleeping or is he passed out!? If you cannot wake him he is NOT asleep and you need to call 911!.
The danger is that even though he vomited, his blood alcohol level could still be rising while he is unconscious if there was any alcohol left unabsorbed!. The higher his blood alcohol gets the deeper his coma will be!. If you can't wake him, he is in a coma!.
Get emergency help right away! It would probably be a good idea for a doctor to tell him he's an alcoholic rather than for him to hear it from you one more time!.
For the sake of your children, he needs to stop drinking!. They shouldn't grow up around this, they shouldn't see daddy doing this, and this could kill him, and they shouldn't grow up without a dad!.
If he's not going to stop drinking you need to start making plans to take your babies and get out of there, and stay out until he's ready to be a dad and husband!. Start getting your wagons in a circle!.
Been there!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
The danger is that even though he vomited, his blood alcohol level could still be rising while he is unconscious if there was any alcohol left unabsorbed!. The higher his blood alcohol gets the deeper his coma will be!. If you can't wake him, he is in a coma!.
Get emergency help right away! It would probably be a good idea for a doctor to tell him he's an alcoholic rather than for him to hear it from you one more time!.
For the sake of your children, he needs to stop drinking!. They shouldn't grow up around this, they shouldn't see daddy doing this, and this could kill him, and they shouldn't grow up without a dad!.
If he's not going to stop drinking you need to start making plans to take your babies and get out of there, and stay out until he's ready to be a dad and husband!. Start getting your wagons in a circle!.
Been there!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
Usually, and depending upon on the activity, it takes 1 hour for each ounce of alcohol!. If he's puking his guts, that's good, he will puke some of the alcohol up and away!. Sleep is a natural result when drinking too much and especially, if one is already tired from the days activity!. However, many people drink heavily because they are depressed or bored in life!. Some people drink each day before going to work because they use a drink for courage or a boost to start the day!. Drinking only grows on a person over time unless they have a reason to stop!. I would say!.!.!.!.that he has a problem!. If he drinks or finds a reason to drink!.!.!.like having friends over frequently or going out to drink!.!.!.!.that's a sign, he has a problem!. Most men might have a drink once in a gray moon but seldom make a habit in drinking!. No one likes being around a DRUNK!. This will drive away good friends/good people and make life at home unbearble at times!. Sounds like!.!.!.it's time for a change and changes need to be made!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
I had to go to prison over that ****! Seriously, something will probably have to happen to open his eyes!. I hit rock bottom before I realized what I was doing to my family, my wife nagged on me every day for two years and I honestly didn't hear a word she said!. Good luck with that!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
I am in agreement with the people about watching out for his safety and laying down the law!. However, I have some advise that worked for me early in my marriage and we haven't had a drinking problem since!.
After a drinking bout which left my husband wasted, I used a slightly different tack!. I kept him awake, pounded on a metal pan, talked continuously, we had to ride home and he was in the backseat and I would slam on brakes and he would slide down to the floor and throw up (He got to clean the car the next day) everything I could think off to make him more miserable!. He had a whale of a hangover for several days, and the headache was much to be admired!!
He always remembered that little drinking bout and has never over indulged again!. We have a drink on occasion, but he knows he will get no compassion and sympathy from me, just the opposite!.
We have now been happily married for 50 years!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
After a drinking bout which left my husband wasted, I used a slightly different tack!. I kept him awake, pounded on a metal pan, talked continuously, we had to ride home and he was in the backseat and I would slam on brakes and he would slide down to the floor and throw up (He got to clean the car the next day) everything I could think off to make him more miserable!. He had a whale of a hangover for several days, and the headache was much to be admired!!
He always remembered that little drinking bout and has never over indulged again!. We have a drink on occasion, but he knows he will get no compassion and sympathy from me, just the opposite!.
We have now been happily married for 50 years!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
he sounds like an alcoholic!. he'll have the hangover from hell in the morning!. let him sleep, and get him something like gatorade when he wakes up!. he'll need electrolytes!. and he'll also need some solid food in the stomach to soak the remaining toxins, even if he ends up puking it up!.
sorry, sucks to be in your situation!. remember, women can get their guy to do anything!. just don't give him sex until he gets it through his head!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
sorry, sucks to be in your situation!. remember, women can get their guy to do anything!. just don't give him sex until he gets it through his head!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
I know you love your husband and want to stay with him but at the same time do not like him drinking!. If you have told him to stop and he does not respect your wishes, it means he either has a problem or enjoys not having responsibility and needs to grow up!. This is inconsiderate when you have kids and you are providing meals and a clean household for him!. Drinking is OK if it does not impact on anyone and it is not a lot and is done in moderation but this is out of control!. I know men do not like to go to relationship counselling but it may be a choice!. Negotiate between you two!. Relationships are based on communication!. I know it is hard with men who don't pay attention, but what else can you do!? I don't mean to be nasty but has he always been like this!? If he has it brings to the question why did you marry him and have kids with him if you knew he was going to be like this!? I know love can be blinding and it is hard to have insight when you are in love, I really do not know what you can do!. Would he like it if you had your girlfriends over who drank while he had to watch the kids!? Relationships are supposed to be an even playing field and this sounds like all the effort is on your part!. Good luck in what ever you decide!. I cannot tell you what to do because ultimately!. the choice is yours!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
He should be fine, just keep checking on him if you think he consumed more then he should have!. Make sure his breathing isnt uneven, and his face is still pink-ish!. If he loses color in his face or his breathing becomes irratic then i would take him to the hospital!.
As for getting him to stop drinking, there are plenty of people in the military who dont drink!. If things are really that bad, give him a choice!. Make it clear to him that if he doesnt quit drinking you will leave him!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
As for getting him to stop drinking, there are plenty of people in the military who dont drink!. If things are really that bad, give him a choice!. Make it clear to him that if he doesnt quit drinking you will leave him!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
He'll be fine once he's slept it off (may take a little longer to get over the hangover), but he's not exactly behaving like a responsible adult!.
He needs to know that he cannot carry on like that!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
He needs to know that he cannot carry on like that!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
Is he willing to do this out of the house so you don't have to look after the kids and it isn't in front of the children!? They shouldn't think that drinking to excess is a good thing!.Www@FoodAQ@Com