I really want to cry and I don't know what to do, how do I stay strong~~?!
I let go of many people recently because they party too much!. They use drugs and I would just drink when I was with them!. I just joined AA to meet better people and be around positive influences!. My girlfriends have done terrible things to me and they know it!. They called and said they missed me and needed me and that they were sorry for things they did!. I miss them but I am finding it hard to be strong!. They always pushed me to try to get me to sleep with guys and tempt me in other ways, I always said no and when they called they said they missed me helping them, but they never listened to me anyways!. How can I stay strong~~!? Thank you~~!Www@FoodAQ@Com
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Well hun!.!.!.!.!.!.I hate to say it!.!.but, you will soon learn that a good friend is hard to find!. The ones who claims to be your friends would NEVER want you to go down a path of self-destruction, just because they do!. I am not saying that I didn't party back in the day!.!.!.!.but, when I stopped, my so called friends should have respected my decision to stop!. A girl I had known for years and I were out and I had more fun sober than the whole bar did drunk!. She couldn't stand it!. I went to the bathroom and came back and I didn't even take a drink of my diet coke!.!.!.I could tell it was spiked!. Sure enough it was!.!.!.!.!.I left!.!.!.I had to walk uptown and get my car because I rode with her!. She got mad at me because I didn't find it funny!. I found out shortly after!.!.!.I was 2 months along in an unplanned pregnancy that happened after my sorry ex bf and I split up and he left me homeless!.!.!.he sold the house I paid for out from under my feet!. He didn't hold a gun to my head and rape me in a brutal way!.!.but, he still raped me!. Long story short!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.I didn't care how this miracle pregnancy occurred!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.I wanted this baby and NO ONE was going to deprive me of it!. It didn't bother my ex friend a bit that she spiked my drink!.!.!.and I was pregnant, but didn't know yet!. I'm not sure how old you are, but!.!.!.at some time in your life!.!.!.you will realize true friends are hard to find!. If they are talking about their other friends to you, then you know they are trashing you to them!. I can't tell you how to find a good support group!.!.!.even so called friends in church showed me their true colors and caused me to distrust everyone on top of the ones I never trusted to begin with!. Family were never any help to me!.!.!.my brothers and I had such a nightmare of a childhood!.!.!.!.how we are even sane is beyond me!. I will tell you this!.!.!.!.You have to stay strong and do it for yourself!. I admit, my son is what keeps me sane!.!.!.but, I am one of the very few people who loves being single by choice and don't need people in my life to be happy!. I trust no one EXCEPT my son!. No one will ever get close enough to me to pull my walls down to ever hurt me again!. If you ever need to vent!.!.!.feel free to email me!. I'm no Dear Abby, but I have been through a lot in my childhood and adult life!. My instincts are almost always correct!.!.!.although at times, I chose to ignore them!. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!Www@FoodAQ@Com
You are stronger than that!. You don't need AA to meet people unless you have a real problem!. They have so many troubles of their own, that they may not be good candidates for you!. Not that they are bad people by any means!.!.!.but unless you are an alcoholic yourself (which I don't think you are) you really don't know what they're going through!. But I might add that you must be commended for this effort!. All you need for strength is to look at your daughters and know that you've done very well for yourself so far!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
You need to call one of your new friends to help you right now!. Perhaps someone that you have met in your AA group!. If your old friends want to be a part of your life, they need to join your new circle of friends and live a different life style!.
Just remember, the bars of full of 'so called friends'!. Are they really your friends or just your drinkin buddies!? No one wants to drink or party alone!.
Stay strong!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
Just remember, the bars of full of 'so called friends'!. Are they really your friends or just your drinkin buddies!? No one wants to drink or party alone!.
Stay strong!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
Good for you babe! You don't need that crap in your life!. I dropped a "friend" before just for being too negative and complaining all the time!. To achieve success, you need positive things around you!
HUGS - TedWww@FoodAQ@Com
HUGS - TedWww@FoodAQ@Com
maybe you could seek your family, and good AA friends!. Trust me, you don't want to be forced into things you don't want to do!. You'll never regret it!. STay strong!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
You need to call your sponsor!.!.!.!.that is what they are there for!. :)Www@FoodAQ@Com
Call your sponsor and find some new friends!
Those girls aren't really good friends to you and you need to rely on family or the people from AA right now until you meet some nicer ones!
I am very proud of you - you're going in the right direction and just remember you did it for yourself and that is awesome!
You will meet some nice and safer people - they're out there!
In the meantime, look into taking some classes, attend church or get into crafts, knitting, a sport, reading - whatever! A positive activity!. You will be forced to meet other people that way too - hopefully good ones!
Good Luck! You can do it!Www@FoodAQ@Com
Those girls aren't really good friends to you and you need to rely on family or the people from AA right now until you meet some nicer ones!
I am very proud of you - you're going in the right direction and just remember you did it for yourself and that is awesome!
You will meet some nice and safer people - they're out there!
In the meantime, look into taking some classes, attend church or get into crafts, knitting, a sport, reading - whatever! A positive activity!. You will be forced to meet other people that way too - hopefully good ones!
Good Luck! You can do it!Www@FoodAQ@Com