My husband drinks maybe a bottle of red wine on a Friday night and 6 cans of beer on a Saturday?!
He hardly drinks at any other time!. I'm not overly concerned about the amount of his drinking, more his attitude to it!. Last night I found a can of beer in the fridge and I asked him where it had come for!. He said he had beer at the weekend!. I knew he had had wine on Friday night, but he also had a couple of cans apparently!. On Saturday night he was out so he was drinking again and on Sunday he had about half a bottle of wine (although this is unusual)!. I was brought up with alcoholic parents and obviously worry about things like this but when I questioned him he said that he didn't care what I thought about it and he wasn't going to give up drinking!. I never asked him to - it was just his general attitude towards me as though it doesn't matter what I think!. What do you think!?Www@FoodAQ@Com
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Talk to him about it and express your concern!. I was raised with alcoholic parents, too so I can see your concern!. But honestly, I wouldn't worry too much right now!. If it becomes habitual and starts to interfere with his and your life, then make an issue out of it!. Www@FoodAQ@Com
I think you should lay off of him!. Asking him why there is a beer in the fridge is treating him like a child, and men resent that like crazy!. He knows his parents were drunks, he doesn't need you to remind him!. And maybe he's just going through a tough phase (aren't we all!?) where we need to escape on the weekends!. Unless it becomes an every day thing, i'd lay off!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
Maybe if you talk to him about the situation with your parents as to why you are so sensitive about it!. As for him not caring what you think about it and you are his wife thats a crappy attitude!. I would certainly tell him how hateful that sounded!. We get married because we want to share our lives together!.!.!.!.SHARE!.!.!.!.!. Maybe you should remind him of this!. and dont have sex for awhile and say I dont care what you think, baby!. Turn about is fair play!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
I don't see a problem with the drinking!. Perhaps his answer could have been more polite but maybe he took it as an accusation!.
As far as jfk's "strategy" of witholding sex, its bitter, vindictive women like you that drive men to drink!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
As far as jfk's "strategy" of witholding sex, its bitter, vindictive women like you that drive men to drink!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
I think the history of alcoholism in your family has made you a bit sensitive to the subject, and I think if he begins to drink any more than three nights a week >>heavily<< he may be headed towards alcoholism!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
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It jus sounds like he wants to hav a few drinks, he hasnt got a drinking problem and he has reacted in the same way i wld if ppl started asking me silly questions!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
he is hardly a problem drinker is he!
i wouldnt worry about it if i were you!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
i wouldnt worry about it if i were you!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
Whilst I don't think he has a problem it's pretty obvious he has a lack of respect for your concerns and fellings!. Www@FoodAQ@Com
I think you need to lighten up a bit!.
Maybe hes had enough of you that's why he couldn't care less what you think!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
Maybe hes had enough of you that's why he couldn't care less what you think!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
Maybe he thinks your concern is actually nagging!? Not that im saying you are but he might take it that way!. Www@FoodAQ@Com
I think you're over reacting!. I drink more than that at dinner time, and I'm not an alcoholic!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
i dont think he has a problem but he shouldnt make light of your concerns regarding your fears of the past!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
I sympathise with you if you had alcoholic parents which is obviosly going to make you more sensitive but I honestly dont think you have much to worry about with your husband!.
Keeping on at him about where a single can of beer came from (!?) is a bit extreme!. dont you think!. He's an adult, able to make his own decisions, dont treat him like a child!. Is he 'drunk' as in falling about, is he obusive to you!? NO, then let him be fgs!.
Keep on like that and you could drive him to drink!!!!!!
Most people enjoy a drink at the wkend it doesnt make them bad people or verging on the alcoholic, honest!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
Keeping on at him about where a single can of beer came from (!?) is a bit extreme!. dont you think!. He's an adult, able to make his own decisions, dont treat him like a child!. Is he 'drunk' as in falling about, is he obusive to you!? NO, then let him be fgs!.
Keep on like that and you could drive him to drink!!!!!!
Most people enjoy a drink at the wkend it doesnt make them bad people or verging on the alcoholic, honest!.Www@FoodAQ@Com