'dutch courage' and drinking to make me more 'natural' when socialising out and about question?!
is this abnormal ....... could i have a problem????
Answers:
You need to gain more confidence in yourself and self esteem, you need to think of other ways of doing this rather than drinking.
I personally like a drink too when I am socialising, but I think it may become a problem if you went up the bar between rounds for myself. Try to pace yourself a bit.
At least you are aware of the situation.. so stop it becoming a problem. Also I drink quite fast, but find when Im chatting it slows down, when your on your own getting in the zone it doesn't seem quite right. Try slowing down and talking more, and keeping to your friends pace, see how it goes.
Think about why you are feeling 'out of place' in a nightclub or a pub.
You are there with your friends to have a good time.
Does downing eight pints help you have a good time or just get you drunk so that maybe you ruin your friends good time because of your words or actions.