I know I was stupid by drinking too much at friends b-day party last night?!
I know I was stupid by drinking too much at friends b-day party last night?
I got so drunk that I coundn't recognized my boyfriend. I only remember that I walked back to my boyfriend house (his house is cross the street) to the use the bathroom, then I fell down at his bedroom floor, then someone came into the room, and we had sex ( more like force sex). To makes the matter worse, I had sex with my boyfriend later on, and I called him "John" (his name is not John), and I don't know anyone name in my life, besides his neighbor name John, and I am not attract to his neighbor. I felt so bad all day today, then finally that I told him that I was having sex with someone else while when he was still at the party. Then, he told me that person was him not somebody else. And he said he doesn't believe me what I said, and he thought that was part of my forplay. He kinda turn a cold shoulder to me. I love him so much and I am miserable as a result. I don't know how to explain to him about "John". Help! Please don't make fun of me. mature and intelligene answer. thanks
Answers:
Jesse,
is the drinking a problem for you? Does this happen often or was this a "one time" occurrance? It is disturbing to think that you may have been violated - though by the sounds of it you seem to have accepted the sex part of this binge.
Please be careful. You are someone's daughter and it would seem to me that better choices could be made in the future to prevent this from happening. You received some "stupid" answers from some on this question; however, you also received some "intellitgent answers" as you requested. Read all of them and then think next time what you could do to prevent a similar thing from occurring.
Best of luck to you!
your post was too long, I got lost in the middle!
At least you got action. I hadn't got any action in over a decade. Maybe instead of drinking by myself, I should drink with woman. Then it is possible that even someone like me can get laid once every few years.
You were on a binge drumk and acted totally stupid! You obviously have no control and would deserve it if your bf dumped you. I know that sounds harsh but it's the truth. There is absolutley NO EXCUSE for doing what you did. It is just a tough life lesson to learn!
Honey Child, I hope you are alright,but this is why you maintain drinking at parties cause anyone could of had their way with you and with STD's and pregnancies ,well I hope you learned your lesson
It sort of sounds like you were raped, I would recommend speaking to a counselor about the incident.
You really need to watch yourself. As a long time bar fly, I can tell you that you should never leave people you trust when you aren't sure that you are in control.
It's time to come clear with your boyfriend, and admit that you were teasing him.
You did NOT have sex with John. Someone you USED to be might have had sex with John, but YOU didn't. Well, someone you used to be, and someone you might be again, if you get that plastered again, but NOT YOU.
If and when you get pregnant, if it turns out that your boyfriend is orange with stripes and your baby is green with polkadots, just give your boyfriend a big hug and say, "Look! She looks JUST like great uncle Toonoose, only with your eyes! What a darling baby! Thank you, thank you, thank you! Will you marry me?"
Think of it as Wikipedia truth. Whoever edits the page last, can post his version of the truth. Wikipedia truth is horrible for encyclopedias, but it's much better for relationships.
You want a mature and intelligent answer? You've got half of it already. Here's the other half. You're a problem drinker. I don't know if you're an alcoholic, but it really doesn't matter. AA doesn't really have a cure for alcoholism. Their members *remain* alcoholics. They simply cease to be problem drinkers by not being drinkers. So should you. Sex isn't just about making your boyfriend happy or mad. It can result in babies, and that's FAR too much responsibility to lay in the lap of someone who can't even figure out how to keep her pants on when she's with someone she can't stand.
Mistakes like yours can ruin lives - not just yours, but in some cases, doing what you did would have ended up with either John or your boyfriend dead - and the other one facing life in prison. I have no problem with free love. Screw half the planet, for all I care. Just make sure that you don't mess up other people's lives by doing so.
You don't need alcohol to be stupid, You do fine without it.
shame on you
Well, what's done is done. Hopefully this HUGE indescretion does not result in the worst case scenarios we are all imagining- --What you need to do now is learn from this and keep on living your life.
At the end of the day, you are in charge of taking care of you so take better care of yourself from now on. Wishing you the best life has to offer.
Yeah, **** happens.