Alcoholic that doesnt drink that much?!

Alcoholic that doesnt drink that much?

My fiance use to drink a LOT. Almost every day, and in large quantities. Sometimes he would come close to polishing off a bottle of whiskey. There was a point that he messed up real bad, and I told him if he didnt quit drinking I would break up with him (2 years ago) He agreed, but later I found out he only quit for about a month. He said that he just couldnt stop, and that he felt horrible for doing it behind my back, but he couldnt help himself. Well, now that we have kids, he has a decent job and drinks once, MAYBE twice a week. He only gets "wasted" if he's around his friends. If its just him and I, its not that bad. However, when we are around his friends and he promises to only drink one, it always turns into more. Also, he says the thought of quitting drinking makes him sad. He says its not that he would miss getting drunk per say, but he couldnt imagine never tasting beer again. So is this alcoholism, or just someone who REALLY loves beer? What type of alcoholism would this be

1 day ago
If it isnt alcoholism, could it be that old habits die hard? He drank heavily for almost 6 years...so I am happy he isnt that way anymore. But if it is alcoholism, what is the first step to helping him?

An alcoholic puts drinking before anything, lies about it, and what not. If he has ever done that, he has a problem. If he continues down this road, he will be a full fledged alcoholic.

There are alcoholics who can function on a day to day basis. However, drinking still causes problems in their life.

How to help him? Calmly talking about it. However, he also has to want to help himself. If he gets help only because someone else wants him to, it won't work. He has to want help. Sometimes it takes hitting rock bottom before that happens.

Perhaps you should check out Al-Anon. Its for people affected by alcoholism, for family and friends of alcoholics.

Good luck to you and your family.