How do you help an alcoholic who has been drinking for 30 years?!
How do you help an alcoholic who has been drinking for 30 years?
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Rehab, but you need to want to quit and make effort =)
Try to get them into a rehab. Tell them that you would like them to stop drinking because it can mess them up severely.
I been drinking for 25 year's and now I'm up to a case of beer a day. They have to want to give up drinking, Or run into a serious illness. I'm not proud but that's the way it goes.
Unless they want to change their life, you can't help them.
Contact AL-ANON to help you to help yourself first.
Go thru the 12-step program.
Then buy A Perfect Circle's album called "Thirteenth Step"
Consistency and belief in yourself... I've seen it done.
You can't. In order for a person to stop being an alcoholic they have to it themselves. Self-destructing habits are difficult to control and stop. There are usually many underlining causes why people invest their lives in these self-destroying behaviors. Some doctors/scientists/psychiatris... tend to believe that there is an inherent cause of alcoholism. My step-father was an alcoholic. He was very intelligent and aware of his alcoholism but could not shake the habit. The worst thing you can do is to enable them. Nature or nurture or both. Your decision.
Well, coming from a home w/an alcoholic in it....we couldn't help him. He would drink more every time we asked him to get help. Although you want to help them, you need to let this person learn on their own. It may be hard to do, but if they don't want help, they won't get it. My dad finally quit once he got cancer. He has been sober for 10 years now...and we finally have a great relationship. I am sad that I didn't have the greatest memories with him as a child. He was a very mean drunk. Best wishes!!!
Go to AA meetings, talk about problems, treatment if it's pretty bad...follow the rules though...no two-way street there...good luck
Oldest story in the book - you can't help. Not really.
Getting or not getting help is totally in the hands of the person with the problem. Best you can do is...
a) Point out there is a problem and that the result of that problem is ______.
b) If the person decides to get help, make it as easy as possible (drive them to meetings, don't give them guilt trips, be there to talk, etc.
c) Don't enable by having alcohol around, saying its OK if they screw up, etc.
You can lead a horse to water...
They have to want to get help..
Offer to go with them to AA meetings and just be a good friend to them..
They have to want to help themselves. All you can do is try and sow the seeds of doubt so they start to think they might need to.
In psychological terms they are at the "pre-contemplation" stage of the cycle of change, i.e. they don't even recognise they have a problem. You can read more about this here: http://www.alcohol-drugs.co.uk/themes/cy...
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I think they have to WANT help for anything to work.