I just dumped my dads beer down the drain.?!
Answers: Is this bad? He stoped for a year and we wen't to this party earlyer and he started to drink and now he wont stop... and now I'm mad so I dumped his beer down the drain >=P.. so now what should I do...
"Pamreid" 's answer, the only one available to read when I came here, is a good answer. As a mental health professional with 20+ years experience, now retired, with much of it being focused on substance abuse and dependence, I'd like to add a bit. What you did is an expression of frustration, among other things, and maybe you're dad will "learn" from that, but, assuming that we're talking about alcoholism here, you must realize that alcoholism has been called a disease or illness for four very specific reasons:
1) Nothing causes alcoholism. It is a problem that originates only from itself.
2) It's chronic. There is NO CURE for alcoholism. People may quit drinking, but the illness is still alive in them and they will continue to struggle with it all their lives.
3) (ooops, I forgot this one!)
4) It can be fatal. If the individual doesn't quit drinking, or at least slow down, it can kill them, either from biological causes or behavioral problems.
Your being mad is understandable, but I just want you to know what you're dealing with, the big picture.
"Pamreid" 's recommendation for you to go to alanon is a great idea, but you might also try to find an Adult Children of Acoholics (ACOA) group. No matter how old or young you are, you were or are being raised in an alcoholic home, and there are a very predictable set of interpersonal thoughts, emotions and behaviors that take place, and YOU need to know them, because, whether you know it, you're interpersonal behaviors, whether they be personal or professional or social, are being very dramatically impacted from that experience. There is a lot of written material on the subject, and I recommend you find them and read some. I could recommend some, but my material is several decades old, and so I'd like you to find something more current. If you can't find anything, I can give you a few names of the best authors and books, and they will still be very valid. I just want you to have the chance to get the latest material. If you find an ACOA group, they'll have written material at the meetings, and you'll be shocked at how accurately they describe your situation, and what to do about it. But remember, YOU CANNOT CURE YOUR DAD'S ALCOHOLISM!!!!! NEITHER CAN HE!! So your primary focus here should be on taking care of yourself. That's not just an old "psychobabble prescription". It's a fact. My best wishes to you. God Bless you.
Go to Alanon meetings to learn how to take care of yourself and detach with love. Your father will not stop drinking until he is ready - enough pain and a low enough bottom.
No, you should not throw away an adults own alcohol. Respect your elders, and do not even touch alcohol. In the future, let your feelings on his drinking be known, but don't stoop so low as to play games.
Run like you know what! No seriously, if he really wants to get more, he'll figure out a way to do it.
RUN
Talk to your dad. tell him it dosnt make you comfterble when he drinks. tell him that it is not very healthy to drink ALOT.