I'm a freshman in HS having a party, but I don't drink and don't want alcohol there...?!

Question: I'm a freshman in HS having a party, but I don't drink and don't want alcohol there!.!.!.!?
Friends have been asking me about bringing alcohol and drinking, and I've been saying I think my parents are gonna be home!. I want to tell them I don't drink and don't want alcohol there, but I don't want it to be talked about as a lame party!. Why can't high schoolers have fun without alcohol! How do I tell them I don't want alcohol in a way that wouldn't make them disrespect me or not invite me to future parties/outings!? They've also been asking me if I'd mind them showing up drunk if there won't be alchol>>What to do!?!?Www@FoodAQ@Com

First of all!. CONGRATULATIONS to you for not wanting alcohol at YOUR party!.
A party is for friends to gather, have a good time and enjoy each others company, not to get wasted, have a hangover, and wake up with a headache feeling sick!. :(
This is YOUR party and you should have it the way YOU want!. If you said no alcohol then no alcohol it is!. Your TRUE friends will come and enjoy the party without alcohol because they are there to have fun by being around YOU!. No alcohol means no alcohol and includes not showing up drunk!. You wouldn't want them to pass out or fall and hurt themselves, then your parents would be liable for their injuries and could be sued by their parents!. You certainly would not want them getting sick all over your parent's home!. You probably would not be able to hide that from your parents!. If alcohol is served to minors at your home, your parents can be sued by the other parents whether or not your parents are there, because they did not supervise the party!.
You would also have the opportunity to show your friends how they can have a good time without alcohol being involved!.
There will be plenty of time for your friends to have a hangover in their future

1!. Great job for not wanting alcohol at your party
2!. tell them that there will be NO alcohol and if they have a problem with it don't have them come ---only true friends will stick with you to the end
3!. NEVER EVER blame your parents or anything that would hurt them
4!. don't have them come drunk because if they get in a car accident you could be blamed if they got killed or hurt !.!.!.OK

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what kind of party doesn't have alcohol!? Dont have a party just call it a gathering cause thats what it is!. If there is no alcohol then what are you gonna do at this party!? Just tell them your parents are gonna be there, that should put the end to the alcohol and most likely the party!. Sorry but its the truth!.Www@FoodAQ@Com

It'd be nice if your friends would respect your decision, but I know what peer pressure is like!. The easy way is to say that if anyone brings alcohol or shows up drunk, your parents will kill you!. If anyone does show up drunk, stick to your word and make them leave!. It'll go over easier with your friends if you blame your parents!.Www@FoodAQ@Com

Alright Listen here buddy!. Im a freshgirl!. And if they want alcohol then they cant come to my party!. I dont drink and im not gonna start because that can get you in a world of trouble and bad things can happen if you get caught and the police come and all that other stuff!. This will get you In trouble!. more advice email me!.Www@FoodAQ@Com

If you're a freshman in HS, your parents SHOULD be there! ,,, I applaud you for not drinking, and not wanting it at your party!. If you have 14-15 yr!.old friends who show up drunk at parties,then you should find a different circle of friends!.!.!.These people are "trouble, waiting for a place to happen"!.!.!.!. You can do better than that!Www@FoodAQ@Com

tell them to respect you, and if they dont and keep insisting on alcohol, i think its time to find new friends, and i dont know why everyone has to get drunk to have a good time either!.Www@FoodAQ@Com

if you dont want alcohol there, then dont have it!!.!. just tell your friends you really dont feel comfortable with that ideaWww@FoodAQ@Com

Just say its a no alchol party!. Have a lot of food and music it will be all good!.Www@FoodAQ@Com

jerks will always bring alcohal!. just don't have the partyWww@FoodAQ@Com

then you won't have any funWww@FoodAQ@Com

Hi Ellie, I can tell you I had very similar concerns when I was in high school!.!.!.!. I was afraid no one would come to my "dry" parties but boy was I wrong!. My parents always welcomed me to have friends over and have dry parties, and I had several a year!. No one ever brought alcohol or showed up drunk!.

I just made it clear when I invited people we'd love to have them but there would be NO drinking involved!. My parents were always home when I was entertaining!. Everyone knew they would have a great time, there would be plenty to do and lots of food and no one ever risked loosing the priviledge to come to our house by breaking the rules!.

Take a stand, don't be wishy-washy about the rules!. The whole school may not come out to your first couple parties, but soon word will spread from the people who did come that they had a lot of fun, and soon more and more people will come!.

For me it wasn't unusually to have 125 people come to a party at our house, and I only went to a high school of 450!.Www@FoodAQ@Com

My sister is graduating from high school this year and she doesn't drink!. She has friends that do!. She has just accepted that if they want to drink then that is their decision!. She doesn't agree with it but she doesn't have to, it's not her choice!. It's her choice not to drink!. She chooses to be friends with the few that drink despite the fact that she doesn't and they choose to be friends with her!. All of her friends know that she doesn't drink and she has never lost a friend over that!. Friends often have a difference of opinion on things and make choices that the other one doesn't agree with but it doesn't mean they can't be friends!. Respect yourself and your choices - you are making the much more responsible and mature ones!. They are making the immature and childish choices!. You have plenty of time to get drunk in life and you don't need it now!. My advice to you, as scary as it is, try talking to your parents about this!. Let them know the situation and your concerns!. It may seem ridiculous and out of the question but they will respect and trust you so much more for being open and honest with them!. And if people show up drunk then let you parents deal with it!. They are parents and can get away with playing the "bad guy" card better than you can!. It will be fine!. Trust your parents and yourself and it will work out!. I know it's hard but take a leap of faith!. Your parents are there to support you and most parents want their children to discuss problems like this with them!. Good luck and have fun!Www@FoodAQ@Com

im a graduate of '07!. ive had a few parties where there was no way i could prevent alchohol from coming, but ive had a few where there was none! if you dont want alchohol, just invite your close friends who would respect your wishes, and they will!. This might be esier if you are having your party at a venue wich doest allow drinking, especially underage, if thats the case, tell them there will frequently be emplyees from this venue and if they suspect any alchohol your party will be broken up!.
If your party is at home, maybe check with an adult neighbor who you cant trust to have your back, you know, have them come over every once in a while and if they suspect anyone has alchohol to try and get them to leave or threaten to call the police!.
Other wise i suggest not having the party, its hard to control whose going to be there, and what they wll be doing there!.
The one thing you dont want to do is be a worry wart, then the only one no having fun at your party will be you! =[
Good Luck, and have fun!. Be safe!. =]Www@FoodAQ@Com

Sorry to say, but even as a freshman in HS people want to drink at a party!. I would just tell them to drink before they come if they need to and keep it really low key!.Www@FoodAQ@Com

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