How to help my alcoholic boyfriend?!


Question: How to help my alcoholic boyfriend!?
I don't know what to do any more i have tried and tried for almost three years to help him but nothing is helping!. He got in an accident on saturday and he says he is not going to drink anymore but i don't know if i believe him!. Everything i read says i should leave him and that is the only thing that will help, i don't see how that helps!.Www@FoodAQ@Com


Answers:
If you don't want to leave him, and he continues to drink, what does that mean!? It helps if you tell him that this time he must keep his word, or you will leave, and be prepared to do it!. If he has been in an accident, that is a wake up call!. If he takes it seriously, he will do whatever it takes to keep his word to stop drinking!. People do stop drinking every day!. He may stop for one year, or two years, and then start again!. And then he'll have to go through it over again!. But if he doesn't stop now, he isn't even taking the first step!.
Right now, he needs to stop and stay stopped, and if you are not willing to leave him if he doesn't, you are a part of the problem!. He has to see the losses to take the first step!. If the accident isn't enough, then you should be next!.Www@FoodAQ@Com

Unfortunately all of that advice about leaving him is accurate!. It can be really hard, but in the end it is the thing that will help him!. If he really is an alcoholic he honestly does not have the capacity to love, respect, take care of you!. He can't love, respect, and take care of himself!.
Sometimes, when we think we are helping an alcoholic, in actuality we are enabling them!. Example: you do something to help, like cover up for them if they miss work because they were drinking, really this allows the drinker to not take responsibility for their actions!. Many times, it takes an alcoholic to hit rock bottom before they will really take the steps to change!. This can mean: losing their job, losing their girl/boyfriend/wife/husband/children, losing their home, etc!.

You need to leave him so that he can work on healing himself!. And!.!.!. You've probably been going through a really tough time yourself!. You need to heal yourself too!.

You can give him resources like Alcoholics Anonymous and you can also take care of yourself by checking out Al-anon for friends and family of alcoholics!. Www@FoodAQ@Com

If he really wants to quit drinking but has a major problem with the addiction, then I suggest having him go to the doctor and get a prescription for these pills that make you sick to your stomach every time you ingest alcohol!. That's how my uncle quit!.!.!.
also, my brother was an alcoholic for awhile and he just found something else he could rely on!. He started munching on cinnamon gummy bears (his favorite candy) every time he started craving alcohol!. Pretty soon when he got to that point where he usually wanted alcohol, he craved cinnamon bears instead!.Www@FoodAQ@Com

it is his problem tell him that "if you want to ruin your life like this it is not my fault but come on mate do u really believe that alcohol is going to flush all your problems away!? i really like but i cant live like this its me or alcohol!?" or something like that please dont ruin your life over trying to fix his it is his problem NOT YOURS and don't feel guilty he got himself into it and he is going to get himself out of it NOT YOU

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Well!.!. I've been in a relationship for 3 years now!.!. and my boyfriend has been everything from a heroin addict, alcoholic, to a crack head!. And it hasn't been a very fun ride!.
All I know from experience, is that you can't help someone, who doesn't want to help themselves!.
Drug and alcohol addiction can really ruin a person!.Www@FoodAQ@Com

DO NOT LEAVE HIM if you do he will only drink even more!. unless you dont care and just want out!. take him to like a 12 step or something!. or just watch him more (like get on his case about drinking) and just buy a lot of obdules (non alcoholic drinks) not sure if that will help!. but if you just want out then leave!.!.!.but if you care for him at all you shouldnt leave him while he is in this stateWww@FoodAQ@Com

Intervention!.!.!.take him to AA!.

It is very hard dealing with an alcoholic!.!.!.my sister-ln-law and both parent-in-laws are alcoholics!.!.!.They don't think they are!. My sister in law has written off three car ect!. They have to want help before you can help them!.
Good luck!Www@FoodAQ@Com

You can't help him!.

Run far and fast!.

As long as you stay with him you are enabling him and are depriving him of his bottom!.

He will not stop until he has no other option!.Www@FoodAQ@Com

Have you considered rehab or intervention!? If you already have, then he seriously has a problem!.

VIVA LA RAZA!Www@FoodAQ@Com

leave him, make him get in rehab, make him want you more than the alcohol by not being around him when he drinksWww@FoodAQ@Com

if you wont leave him go to Al-Anon to find support for yourself at least to help yourself!. It will help you not be an enablerWww@FoodAQ@Com

dont just dump him that will effect his drinking more sit with him and talk not a short one a good long one and aa metings with him help him work through itWww@FoodAQ@Com

Alcoholics Annonymous!Www@FoodAQ@Com

Break up with him until he stops for good!.Www@FoodAQ@Com

LEAVE HIM!.Www@FoodAQ@Com

just dump himWww@FoodAQ@Com





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