I think my dad is an alcoholic?!
Hi!. I'm 13 years old, and I have two questions: first off, is my dad an alcoholic!? Second, What am i supposed to do about it!? Dump it all down the sink!? Ok!. So!. Every night my dad comes home from work, and he takes a can of beer and starts drinking it!. I think he drinks maybe 7 cans a night, maybe more maybe less!. And then he usually gets drunk!. He's not abusive or anything, but I don't like to be around him when he's like this because he acts like I'm a speck of dust and my other sister is a princess of some sort!. Then before he goes to bed, he packs cans of beer in a pack that he takes with him to work!. I don't really know how many he drinks there, but he still has his job so it must not be a lot!. He works as a mechanic!. This is all the evidence I have, I wish I could provide more!. Please help me, I have no idea!.!.!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
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Well I think your dad may be an alcoholic!. Is your mother around, because she would be the best person to talk to!. Most people drink when they are depresed or lonley!. also when people are drunk they can get sort of aggresive and even if your dad isn't it is best to be safe!. Don't dumb out all is beer because all though it would be a good way to make a point it can come out as childish!. I think that because he is your dad he will understand if you talk to him!. Although you do not want to put presure on him because that will give him even more of a resone to drink, I think you should tell him that when he drinks it is scary for you and you don't feel like he cares for you!. Tell him all your feelings!. also talk to any other family member that you are close with!. also don't get angry just tell him you are sad!. While he is thinking about this give him lots of time you do not want to push him over the edge and force him to drink!. If you are scared and need more advice just tell me, I don't want you to feel alone in this!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
there are a few ways to test if some one is drunk, a simple one is to ask him to walk forward on a straight line, your 13, you can just lie and say its a science homework thing or something, if you have done its for a couple of weeks and he couldn't do it then you can just try to see where he is getting his alcohol substances from or just tell your mother or something, you can even make him feel guilty by getting videos that say the warnings of alcohol etc!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
I cannot tell you if your dad has a drink problem!. But can you can talk to him about your feelings or that you don't like to see him drunk every night!?
For yourself, don't get distracted from school!. Take care of yourself and your future!. This is what will save you!.
If he does turn out to have a problem you will need to take care of yourself more and see the school counsellor!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
For yourself, don't get distracted from school!. Take care of yourself and your future!. This is what will save you!.
If he does turn out to have a problem you will need to take care of yourself more and see the school counsellor!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
How does he treat you when he isn't drinking!? Sounds like he's always drinking, and that could be a problem!. He shouldn't be bringing beer to work, that's a definite sign of a problem!. But don't throw it down the drain!. Could you talk to your mom!? Just know it's OK to have concern for your dad!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
Maybe you should let your mother handle that!. If you dump his beer out he is going to be extremely mad!. The last time I looked beer is a legal beverage for persons over 21!. If he wants to drink beer he is going to!. He works all day and provides a home for his family!. Taking beer to work is not good though!. Hopefully it won't effect his job!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
My Dad was the same way, and he worked on Jet fighters in the Air force!. He was not abusive at all, but he certainly was an alcoholic!. I'd say yes, and all you can do is tell him how you feel and stick with it!. It's up to him to change!. He's your Dad, don't give up on him!Www@FoodAQ@Com
He is definitely a problem drinker and likely an alcoholic if he's drinking at work!.
Pouring it down the sink isn't going to do anything other than make him mad!.
Where is your mom!?Www@FoodAQ@Com
Pouring it down the sink isn't going to do anything other than make him mad!.
Where is your mom!?Www@FoodAQ@Com
I would say he probably has a drinking problem!. The best way to get him help is to tell an adult about your problem, such as a teacher, and they should be able to help you find help in your area!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
My dad used to drink 15 beers a night, but he wasn't really ever drunk or anything!. If your dad is constantly drunk, he may have a problem!. Talk to him about how you feel!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
You should go to an Al-Anon meeting and ask questions!. Al-Anon is a division of Alcoholics Anonymous that helps family members deal with problems!. They could give you the best answers and analysis!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
He sounds like an alcoholic to me!. Do you live with your mom too!? If so talk with her about it!. Or try another adult or a doctor!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
you cannot "help him"
try contacting Al-anon(it will come up on a search)!.
They will help and advise youWww@FoodAQ@Com
try contacting Al-anon(it will come up on a search)!.
They will help and advise youWww@FoodAQ@Com
he sounds OK I drink a 12 pack every night, I'm not an alcoholicWww@FoodAQ@Com
well first you need to talk to your dad about how you feel i should know i had the msae problem but really you must tell him how you feel and tell him that you are want to help him!. You could also contact a help service that could help you find more out about it and they would be able to help your dad!. But you mustn't do this on your own you must tell another family member about it then tell your dad how you feel and that it is upsetting you becuase i bet he dosent even know hoe much he is drinking!. also try and find out if he is under alot of stress at the moment maybe at work or something else!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
If your dad is drinking all day and night he is most likely addicted to alcohol!. If he isnt already he is working toward being one and his behavior is dangerous if he is drinking at work and while driving!.You haven't mentioned your mother!. Does she live with you and can you talk to her about it, a grandmother or some other close relative!? Pouring out your dads beer won't make any difference and will only make him angry before he goes out to buy more!. Have you tried talking to him about this early in the day before he gets drunk!? Maybe try writing him a letter, tell him that you are worried about how much beer he drinks, and you don't like it because his behavior changes toward you then slip it in his lunch box!. Your not alone so if thing start getting bad at home reach out to someone and don't be afraid to ask for help from an adult!.
Good luck!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
Good luck!.Www@FoodAQ@Com
Well - yes - your dad is an alcoholic!. I have one too!. I hope you find something to do because everything I did at your age didn't make a bit of difference!. I even threatened to call the child abuse agency when I got a spanking at 13!. That was the worst idea I had!. Our best solution was for my mother (whom my dad cherishes) to threaten to divorce him if he didn't stop!. He would usually stop then for about 4 months and slowly work his way back up again!. Any attempts to steal/hide the beer will just make him angrier!. Try to sit down with him and discuss it!. also - remember to never ride with him when he has been drinking!. This will get easier as you get older because you can offer to drive!. For now - try to get other rides!. Good Luck!Www@FoodAQ@Com